The Road to Happiness & Upcoming Coaching Call   Leave a comment

“Trade your expectations for appreciation and the world changes for you.”  – Anthony Robbins

Expectations create pressure within ourselves and strains our relationships with the people we meet. Resentment and stress often follow suit, and rarely lead to sustainable solutions.

This week, try trading your expectations for appreciation. Notice the little things that people say and do. Compliment them and let them know how much their actions mean to you.   And don’t forget to include yourself! Eating breakfast, completing (or starting!) a project you’ve been putting off, or even making the bed are all worthy of your notice and appreciation.  It’s the little things that often make the biggest difference and lead to greater happiness.

If you’d like to increase your happiness, join me on Thursday, April 15, 2021for The Road to Happiness: An Online Coaching Call – an interactiveexperience where you’ll gain tools to increase your happiness level; learn about three needs essential for acquiring happiness, and how to meet them; and a few misconceptionsabout what makes us truly happy

Feedback from our last call, “The Power of Vulnerability,” includes:


Thank you! Our conversation was such an enriching experience!”Liliana F.


“I really loved the session. I felt like I could be open and honest and felt at ease. You should definitely organize more of these sessions.”Alenka K.

Registration for Thursday’s call closes on Wednesday, April 14, 2021
The fee is €15 / $18 USD and can be paid via IBAN or PayPal. The group is limited to eight participants, so everyone has time to share.


To register and receive payment information, please email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.
Wishing you a happy, healthy day!


With love,

Theresa

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. 

For more information on How of Happiness Coaching Call, email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Posted April 11, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Easter: A Time for Rebirth and Connection   Leave a comment

Easter, like spring, represents a time of rebirth and renewal. Perhaps there’s a dream in your heart you are ready to pursue or a desire you wish to birth. Like a seed beginning to sprout, we are always in a cycle of revitalization and creation. And this includes revitalizing our relationships. 

My recent podcast, Practicing Togetherness, combined with today’s postencourages us to embrace a broader view of Easter – to rise above our differences, to be channels of love, support and connection, and to share our unique gifts and talents as a healing presence in the world.

I hope you find today’s message and Practicing Togetherness inspiring. You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the link below. You can also find it on Spotify, by putting my name in the search bar.

Whatever may lie in your heart to do, to be, or to create, it would be my pleasure to guide and support you.

“It really boils down to this: that all life is interrelated. We are all caught in an inescapable network, and mutually tied into a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one destiny, affects all indirectly.

-Martin Luther King, Jr.

While Easter represents a time of joy and renewal, many people, including myself, have been feeling a sense of disconnection from the people we know, love and care about. And why wouldn’t we? It’s been such a strange and stressful year.

Even in normal times it’s easy to feel isolated – whether in the midst of a crowd or a large metropolitan city. It seems antithetical, I know. But it’s true. And, I’ve spoken to countless others, both during and pre-COVID, who have felt that way too. Perhaps there’ve been times when you have experienced the same. Don’t think it odd if you have. As Dr. Murthy mentions in his talk, Together, on which my podcast, Practicing Togetherness is based, acknowledging our longing for more meaningful and deeper connections has been a positive result of COVID. 

In our fast paced, and modern day lives, in addition to the challenges COVID has presented, it’s easy to feel cut off from the nourishment that we so deeply need to thrive. The good news is there are things we can do to renew ourselves, celebrate life, and deepen our relations. 

1. Small actions lead to great things!

Saying “I love you” to those we hold close to our hearts, and whose friendships we value, lifts us up, allows us to express our appreciation and affection, and lets others know we care. It’s good for both our hearts!

If you’re afraid of rejection, take the risk and say it anyway! You may be surprised at how good it feels! And like a domino effect it may inspire others to take the same action!

2. Kindness

Research has shown that acts of kindness have beneficial outcomes for the giver and the receiver. For instance, kindness has been shown to increase self-esteem, improve mood, strengthen the immune system, reduce aches and pains, and protect overall health twice as much as aspirin protects against heart disease. Pretty cool, right? 

Even simple acts, like helping someone across the street, buying groceries for someone in need, or surprising someone with an unexpected gift can brighten their day and elevate our mood. And don’t forget, being kind to ourselves is equally important! 

3. Listen

Wow! Listening is an underutilized gift we can give to one another. Rather than thinking about what we’re going to say, let’s make listening a priority. 

To truly hear what someone is saying, and letting them know we understand and care, can lift the weight off their shoulders and strengthen our empathy and compassion. And who knows, we may each learn something new!

May this Easter be a time of renewal:  to express our love, nurture our relationships, and care for our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs.

Wishing you a Happy, Healthy Easter!

With love,

Theresa

©Article and photo Theresa Conti

References:

1. https://www.uhhospitals.org

2. https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges.

Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

Posted April 4, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Our Freedom Resides Within   Leave a comment

First of all, Happy Spring! 

It’s always such a joy to watch nature unfolding – springing to life before our very eyes. I feel inspired as I watch the buds forming on the trees outside my window, or witness the flowers pushing through the earth while I’m on my daily walks. They remind me that like life, nature is unstoppable and always expressing itself, beautifully and freely.

OUR FREEDOM RESIDES WITHIN

“I freed a thousand slaves. I could have freed thousands more, if only they knew they were slaves.”

Harriet Tubman

Last Sunday, I watched a video of Sadhguru that was filmed at a Youth and Truth Event in Delhi, India in 2018. What I heard reminded me of Victor Frankl and his book, A Man’s Search for Meaning, in which Frankl recounts his experience at Nazi concentration camps during WWII. His story is a poignant lesson that tells us regardless of the conditions we face, our freedom resides within. No one and nothing can inhibit it or take it away. 

I also found the precept true while facilitating a volunteer program at a maximum-security prison in Washington State. While many of the inmates felt they were in bondage, others found a sense of freedom through meditation, personal growth seminars, spiritual practices, artwork, and other mediums.  Many of the men I spoke with told me their imprisonment was the best thing that could have happened to them, because it caused them to stop, reflect on their lives, and experience an awakening that was impossible to find on the outside.  Choosing where to put their attention is what determined each inmates’ experience.

Years ago, Bo Lozoff, founder of The Prison Ashram Project and The Human Kindness Foundation wrote a book called  We’re All Doing Time; a telltale title that illustrates how our thoughts, beliefs and behaviors lead to corresponding outcomes– whether we realize it or not. So, how do we free ourselves from our own self-confinement?

First, by letting go of blame, taking responsibility for our choices, and forgiving ourselves and others for whatever pain or suffering we may have caused or experienced. This is the foundation that guides us on the road to freedom. It all starts with a decision, then Life steps in and guides our process.

As the famous Goethe quote advises:  Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Our healing, both personal, interpersonal and global is in our hands. Let’s begin it.

With love,

Theresa

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

Posted March 23, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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James Joyce Writes Ulysses in Trieste, Italy   Leave a comment

Greetings!

As a contributor to InTrieste.com, a local online and print expat magazine, I recently took part in an initiative to highlight an author who wrote part, or all of, one of their published works while living in the area. I choose Ulysses, by James Joyce, an author I knew little about before embarking on the project.

We filmed the video (which you’ll find in the link at the end of the post), by the Grand Canal, along with a peek-a-boo view of the Gulf of Trieste, and the surrounding area. I’ve included some of Joyce’s background, a few quotes I found particularly poignant, along with a few comments of my own.

I hope you enjoy it!

With love,

Theresa

JAMES JOYCE WRITES ULYSSES IN TRIESTE

“Shut your eyes and see.”James Joyce

James Augustine Aloysisus Joyce was an Irish novelist, short story writer, poet, teacher and literary critic. He contributed to the modernist avant-garde movement and is regarded as one of the most influential and important writers of the 20th century.

To learn more, and view the video, click on the link below. If so inspired, feel free to leave a comment in the reply section, under the post. I’d love to read your feedback

CLICK HERE TO SEE THE video

or view it on Intrieste.com under Books and Culture

With love,

Theresa

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

Posted March 17, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Three Must-Haves for Cultivating Healthy Relationships   Leave a comment

You can also listen to the podcast on Spotify.

“GENUINE RELATIONSHIPS DEPEND FIRST ON A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH OURSELVES.”

Sonia Choquette

Having a relationship is one of the most common goals that coaching clients wish to achieve. 

According to Neil Clark Warren, Ph.D. and founder of eharmony.com, there are three qualities that indicate emotional health when looking for a partner: generosity, truthfulness and kindness. Use them as a gauge to assess if the person you’re considering partnering with has them. But don’t stop there! Explore ways to cultivate them for yourself, if needed. You will enhance your inner beauty, and feel better, too!

Use the same guidelines for developing healthy friendships.

With love,

Theresa

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

© Article and Photo Theresa Cont

Posted March 11, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Valentine’s Day: You Are the Treasure!   Leave a comment

“I Am the Treasure.”

– Theresa Conti

Did you know that Valentine’s Day actually began at the end of the 5th century in 496? And that, what we know as a romantic holiday, has glimmers of both ancient Christian and Roman tradition? Interesting, isn’t it?

According to the Smithsonian Magazine, ancient sources reveal that there were several men known as Saint Valentine who died on Feb. 14, although they reportedly died in different years. Two of them were beheaded during the reign of the Roman Emperor Claudius Gothicus 269-270 A.D., at a time when persecution of Christians was common. Legend has it that one of the Valentine’s was a preacher who had healed an aristocrat’s daughter of blindness, leading the nobleman’s family converting to Christianity, and the other was a bishop from the city of Terni, in Umbria, who had healed a convert’s son. Both Valentines are buried on the Via Flaminia, an ancient road leading from Rome over the Apennine Mountains to what is now known as Rimini. Who would have thought?

The Internet is filled with stories! For instance other legends suggest that St. Valentine was a Roman priest who performed secret weddings during the 4th century – a practice that was in direct opposition to the authorities wishes, and another, that St. Valentine (who was not yet a saint), helped Christians escape from Roman prisons where they were brutally beaten and tortured. 

St. Valentine’s Day is also associated with the ancient Roman festival, Lupercalia, a purifying event which took place from February 13-15. The annual festival was said to ward off evil spirits and promote health and fertility.

So, how did these ancient legends segue into a modern-day romantic holiday? In the latter half of the 14th century, Geoffrey Chaucer, the famous English poet, wrote a poem entitled The Parliament of Fowls, which contains the line “For this was on Saint Valentine’s Day, when every bird comes there to choose his mate.” Shortly thereafter, European nobility began sending love notes during bird-mating season, and the practice took off from there.  In subsequent centuries, English men and women designated February 14 as the day to write notes of endearment to their beloveds. The practice eventually led to chocolatiers, greeting card companies, and other industries promoting the holiday among lovers.

So, what began as a fateful day for the Valentines, has become an international holiday to express our love and affection to our significant others.  But not all of us are in relationship, or choose to be, and the holiday can stir up painful emotions for some of us.

And although Valentine’s Day has become highly commercialized, we can use it as an opportunity to let the people we love know we are thinking of them, and as a reminder to reflect on our own good qualities, and that the love we seek resides within us, regardless of our relationship status.

References:  

Smithsonian Magazine. History.com. NPR.org.

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Good Vibrations: Watch for Signs of Spring   Leave a comment

We can make ourselves miserable or we can make ourselves strong. The effort is the same.” – Pema Chödron

Sometimes it seems like nothing is working in our favor. The refrigerator breaks down, someone else gets the job we wanted, the air condition stops working, the relationship we were hoping would last ends. It’s tempting to feel discouraged and sorry for ourselves. But don’t get stuck in self-pity. If you stay too long, it may be hard to dig yourself out. 

Feel the disappointment, acknowledge the hurt, then brush yourself off and let the good vibrations begin. Start by doing something that replenishes and renews you. Then watch for “signs of spring.”

With love,

Theresa

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti

Posted January 29, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

Embracing the New Year: Daring Greatly   Leave a comment

Courage is more exhilarating than fear, and in the long run it is easier. We do not have to become heroes overnight, just a step at a time, meeting each thing as it comes up, seeing it not as dreadful as it appeared, discovering that we have the strength to stare it down.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

I love this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt. It gives me hope and reminds me that I have the courage to step out into the night, and that when I do, it’s never as scary as it seems. Moving across country from New York to San Francisco when I was 18; accepting jobs that felt way over my head and experiencing a deep sense of satisfaction and success when I did; becoming a parent; getting divorced; being a single parent; going back to college in my 30’s; traveling to Vietnam, Laos and Cambodia by myself for my first tip out of the US; moving to Italy as a single woman; being vulnerable and putting myself out there with no guarantees, yet doing it all the same, trusting in the inspiration that guided me to make the choices and take the actions that allowed me to pursue my goals and dreams.  Perhaps you’ve done the same.  

It’s easy to hold back – fear likes to rear its head – but as Eleanor Roosevelt so wisely said, we have the strength to stare it down.

I recently finished reading Daring Greatly by Brenè Brown, after which today’s post is titled. I’ve listened to many of her podcasts and videos.  She frequently mentions a quote by Teddy Roosevelt, the 26th President of the United States, and Eleanor. Roosevelt’s cousin. The quote serves as my inspiration for 2021. I’ve printed it out, placed it on the first page my journal, and read it daily. I thought you might find it inspiring, as well.

It’s not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena,whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again.Because there is no effort without error andshortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds;who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions;who spends himself in a worthy cause;Who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement,and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.

Theodore Roosevelt

What is your heart longing to do? What changes have you been wanting to make, and are ready to dare greatly and pursue? 

Write it down.  Flesh it out. Create a vision.  Then write down the steps you need to take to turn it from a dream into a reality. Take small consistent steps. Even one action a week will lead to a significant change at the end of the year.

WISHING YOU A HAPPY, HEALTHY NEW YEAR!

With love,

Theresa

BIO:

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti

Posted January 11, 2021 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Finding Your Tribe: Making Connections as an Expat, a Traveler or in Your Home Community   Leave a comment

Community happens when you make connections based on a sense of place and purpose.” – John Addison

The holidays can be a time of celebration and joy, and can also leave us feeling isolated and lonely, particularly for the elderly, and for those of us who live alone.

One thing I’ve found helpful to do when traveling solo, and particularly prior to moving to Italy, is to reach out and make connections before and during my trips, which has made travel much more fun and fruitful. The same strategies for building a larger network can also be used in our home communities. 

I always find it helpful to make connections before and during travel, and found it especially important prior to moving from the United States to Italy.  Reaching out to others can make our experiences much more fun and fruitful.

Here are a few tips to create community and make your holidays more festive, whether you’re living as an expat or traveling solo.

Expat groups:  

Do an online search for expat groups in the region where you live or will be visiting, such as our own Expats In Trieste. Stay informed about their activities by signing up on their social media pages.  Participate in their programs, whether they’re in-person or online. You may find others who share your interests, which can lead to budding friendships.

Reach Out to People in Your Field: 

As a Life Coach and energy healer, I begin by reaching out to practitioners who are in the same or similar fields. They include coaches, therapists, energy healers, and yoga instructors, among others. In other words, people with whom I share common ground.  You can do the same!

Ask colleagues and/or search online for people who work in industries that are similar to yours. Let them know that you’re living in their area, or will be visiting, and would like to know if they’re available to meet, as you’re looking for like-minded people to connect with.

I’ve had wonderful experiences using this approach and have even been invited to dinner, parties, and tours of the person’s city, in addition to coffee and drinks. I  know this can feel vulnerable, so trust your intuition and do what feels right to you.  To avoid misunderstandings, unless friends have referred me, I only contact women, as I feel safer doing so. 

Use the same technique by asking friends if they know people to whom they can refer you. It’s a small world, and it may be easier to connect than you think!

Common Interests: 

Brainstorm a list of your interests and do an online search for activities that match them, then mark your calendar and go.  Dances, cooking classes,  hikes in nature, and photography workshops are a few suggestions. 

Everyday Connections:  

Talk with everyone! The barista at the caffè you frequent, the fruit and vegetable vendor where you purchase your produce or someone waiting at the same bus stop as you. Be curious – ask them a general question, or share something about yourself, such as how much you like a particular type of coffee or fruit, or make a comment about the weather, depending on the situation. See what unfolds from there.

MeetUp Groups

Check out MeetUp.com for events that may happening in your region or while you’re traveling.  It’s a great way to participate in programs you might not have otherwise known about. It’s free to join, and can lead to local and international friendships. 

Tours:  

Tours allow for meeting new people while learning something new. For instance, I signed up for a half-day tour of Florence and had dinner with a fellow tourist that evening. Tours provide opportunities for connection, whether local, regional or international. Check out options in your community, such as city, wine and bike tours. 

Couchsurfing: 

Although most members are in their 20’s or 30’s, you’ll also find people who range in age from their 40’s to 70’s. Search for people who have been verified and have several positive references. I reached out to a member in Lisbon and let her know I was planning a trip for my birthday and wondering if she’d be free to meet while I was there. Much to my surprise, she organized a party!

Trust your intuition, only contact people with whom you feel comfortable, and meet in public places. 

Recovery Groups: 

There are thousands of international 12-Step groups and there may be one in or close to your area. Check the websites for in-person or online meetings for groups that you belong to or their sister programs. It’s a wonderful way to get support, particularly during the holidays.

Tourist Information Centers:  

Check out tourist information centers for local events and other activities. Every major city has one. For instance, the visitor center in Trieste even has a weekly list in English.

Volunteer: 

Research organizations, among other groups, that are active in your community to discuss their needs and see how you can help them. Volunteering on a consistent basis provides a framework for potential friendship, which can lead to activities outside of the organization.

Carve Your Own Path: 

 Have an interest or a passion, but can’t find a local group? Consider starting one of your own! MeetUp.com, Facebook, and other platforms can get you started and help you build community. There are thousands of groups, including hiking, dance and professionally oriented groups. I created three! One for English language speakers, and two for various aspects of my coaching practice. Give it a go and check them out!

When Movement is Limited: 

If restrictions are in place, for instance, due to COVID, search for online groups where you can participate and feel a part of a community.  

© Article and photo by Theresa Conti

WISHING YOU A HAPPY, HEALTHY HOLIDAY!

With love,

Theresa

BIO:

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.

I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

Posted December 14, 2020 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Practicing Togetherness: Happy Thanksgiving   Leave a comment

I’ve been listening to several talks, interviews and podcasts by Dr. Vivek Murthy, the 19th US Surgeon General who served in the Obama administration, and who was recently appointed to be part of President Biden’s COVID task force. 


Dr. Murthy talks about the healing power of love and how, in that space, we are all healers; something I also know and truly believe.


I’m including a few highlights below from an interview I recently heard, entitled Together; the same title as Dr. Murthy’s most recent book.
As always, I hope you find this week’s post helpful. 

With love, Theresa


PRACTICING TOGETHERNESS

We are hardwired for connection – it’s what gives purposeand meaning to our lives. The absence of love, belonging and connection always leads to suffering.”– Brenè Brown

This year’s Thanksgiving holiday is far from the norm we’re accustomed to. With the number of COVID cases rising, we are being asked to lay low, keep travel to a minimum, and most of all, to stay home. For many of us, that means spending the holiday away from family and friends, and for some of us, it means spending the holiday alone.

In his interview entitled, Together, Dr. Murthy talks about the benefits of social connection as an extraordinary and powerful force for improving our health, enhancing our performance in the workplace, and at school. He goes on to say that connection, or togetherness, can even help to heal some of the rifts that have developed in societies around the world, as it has become harder to dialogue with one another, which has made us more prone to polarization.

Lack of authentic connections leads to loneliness, which impacts our health and has been shown to increase the risk for heart disease, dementia, depression, anxiety and premature death, and raises the likelihood that our sleep is fragmented and less restful. But, Dr. Murthy goes on to say that there’s a brighter side to the story, as COVID is showing us is the importance of relationship and togetherness.

Research on happiness has shown that when we give, we also receive, as our own level of happiness increases. 

SO, HOW CAN WE USE OUR GIFTS AND TALENTS IN SERVICE TO OTHERS, AND BE A SOURCE OF HEALING?

Here are few suggestions from Dr. Murthy, together with a few thoughts of my own:

Put people back in the center of our lives. Make them a priority:

For instance, stop and talk with someone at your local bus stop. Invite a friend for coffee. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while. Having a good conversation with a friend or a stranger you meet on an airplane or at a bus stop reduces stress levels and can have a positive effect on our health.

Build relationships:

Get to know someone by asking about their experiences, sharing a vulnerable moment with them, and hearing theirs. 

When we share openly and honestly, like a safety net, we create a space for others to do the same.  This is what establishes a sense of togetherness, and can lead to deeper levels of connection and intimacy.

Find common ground:

Years ago, I participated in a citizen diplomacy project in central Vietnam. The project brought 40 people from the US, Canada and Croatia together with 40 Vietnamese. The project entailed creating a peace park in the old DMZ, where children and adults were still getting injured and killed by landmines, 25 years after the war ended. I recall thinking that we are less likely to hurt each other when we understand and get to know one another. 

Finding common ground can be as simple as shopping at the same grocery store.

Share our stories:

Stories are how we learn and communicate, and how we relate to each other through our shared experiences.  The more open and honest are stories are, the more powerful are the connections we forge.

Community Projects:

Join together with people in your community to create beneficial projects. For instance, communities, such as those in the Pacific Northwest, have installed kiosks, located throughout the city, where community members can freely borrow and leave books. Perhaps there are resources, or other types of projects, that you can develop and that serve to partner with people in your community.

So, how can you make this Thanksgiving meaningful? How can you share your healing presence?

“Creating a connected life begins with the decisions that we make day to day. Do we choose to make time for people? Do we show up as our true selves? Do we seek each other out with kindness? These are the questions I hope we will be able to take into our lives,and to consider, not just during COVID 19 but long after it’s over. 

My hope is that we will come out of this pandemic, with not just a great appreciation or each other, but with a greater commitment of living a people centered life.

Dr. Vivek Murthy

Wishing you a happy, healthy Thanksgiving!

With love,

Theresa

Bio:

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure.


I specialize in helping my clients manage their stress and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. I offer a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and see how we might work together.


Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.comto schedule your complimentary consultation.

Posted November 28, 2020 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

BUILDING FRIENDSHIP   Leave a comment

BUILDING FRIENDSHIP

 

As social creatures, it’s natural to seek out others with whom we can share friendship and community. Although the current landscape makes it challenging, we can still reach out and meet our needs for connection, whether it be online or via telephone. 

BUILDING FRIENDSHIP

“WILL YOU BE MY FRIEND IS ONE OF THE BRAVEST THINGS WE CAN EVER SAY.” -Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

We all long for a sense of love and belonging, whether we live in the town we grew up in or have relocated and are living as expats in a foreign country. Inviting someone for coffee or doing something fun requires confidence, courage and vulnerability. But we can do it!

When our request for friendship is met, we open the doors for greater joy and fulfillment. When and if our request for friendship is denied, it may not feel very good, but we can take pride in having tried and move on to asking someone new. As one of my beloved teachers once said: “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway!”

ANECDOTE:

I learned a valuable lesson when I was in my mid-20’s. A friend and I had gone to a bar to listen to music and dance; something we both loved doing. I was shocked when she got up and someone to dance, as it wasn’t customary at the time for a woman to ask a man. She danced the night away while I sat at the table watching.

The next time we went out, I intended to dance and have fun. I mustered my courage and made the. move. The first man I asked turned me down. I realized, in a split second, that if I retreated and went back to my table I’d never take the chance, so I didn’t let it stop me. Without skipping a beat, I looked around, asked another man, and had a wonderful night!

We can’t control the outcomes of our actions, but we can initiate them. If there’s someone you’d like to meet, they might also like meeting you.

FEELY SHY?

TRY USING THE AFFIRMATIONS BELOW WHILE LETTING THE POSITIVE FEELINGS THAT ARISE SOAK DOWN INTO YOUR BODY.

“I am Confident, Capable and Confident. I express myself with ease.” ***

“I surround myself with Friends and Family who love, respect and value me.” ***

“I am safe. I am filled with peace and Harmony.” ***

***TAKEN FROM THE LETTERS “C,” “F” AND “H” OF ALPHABET AFFIRMATIONS: TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE AND LOVE YOURSELF. 

PURCHASE YOUR COPY HERE. 

DON’T LIVE IN THE US? LOOK FOR IT ON AMAZON IN YOUR HOME COUNTRY.

 

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING

“Lovely book! Provides lots of ideas for how to make one’s life more positive by visualizing in a fun way! Highly recommended!”

“Lifts me up. I’m pleased to read one affirmation every morning. These set a positive direction for my work day as well as days of rest and recharging.”

“Simple. Effective. Affirmative.  A joyful and positive journey down alphabet lane. Each letter has affirmations that one may reflect on, contemplate and be inspired by. Feeling creative? There is space to insert your own creations. Beautiful concept and execution….”

“Pensieri positivi…ARRIVO! Eh già! Usando questo libro mi sono accorta di quanta resistenza si fa aggiorno d’oggi a vedere, ansi no, a pensare POSITIVO! devo dire GRAZIE GRAZIE e infinitamente GRAZIE all’autrice del libro che con questo semplice esercizio (ma per nulla scontato!) mi ha riportata a vedere le cose diversamente.”

“Positivity. The right tips to focus on positivity and learn a new attitude. A short book that you can use to improve yourself.”

“Finally – the paperback.  What an inspiring little book. Something for the bedside table.”

AVAILABLE IN PAPERBACK AND ON KINDLE

CHOOSE THE VERSION THAT WORKS BEST FOR YOU.

BIO

I was born and raised in New York. I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Leader and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. My books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself and I Am the Treasure – a little book of inspirational poetry.

If you’d like help managing your stress and developing inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience, so you can life with greater ease, realize your goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges, I’d love to hear from you. 

Email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals and dreams, and see how we might work together.

PLEASE NOTE: You can also find my blogs under Expert Advice on InTrieste.com, a local online magazine where you’ll find interesting articles, photos, and more about Trieste, Italy, the beautiful city in northern Italy where I live.

If you find today’s post helpful, please leave your comments below or on my blog at InTrieste.com

Thank you! 

 

 

 

 

 

Eight Obstacles to Attaining Balance and Solutions to Resolve Them -Part 3   Leave a comment

Dear Friends,

I hope you’ve had a great summer, in spite of the restrictions resulting from COVID. Although the world around us continues to change, we have the ability to remain empowered through our thoughts, decisions and attitudes.

In Part One of Eight Obstacles to Attaining Balance and Solutions to Resolve Them, I wrote about Mental Chatter, Beliefs and Self-Talk – and how they work both for and against us.  In Part Two, I addressed Fear, Vulnerability and Shame and how to meet, embrace, and work through them. (To read the posts, see my July 9, 2020 and August 4, 2020 articles.)

Today’s post is the third and final section of the series, and concludes with Denial and Overindulgence, an interesting contrast!

As always, I hope you find today’s post helpful and would love to hear your comments!

Obstacle #7:  Denial

“Once in a while it really hits people that they don’t have to experience the world in the way they have been told.”

 – Alan Keightley

As children, we may have been taught that it was selfish to follow our dreams.  When I was growing up this was especially true for girls. Our job was to put others’ needs first, and our own needs last.. Although I am dating myself, our role models were Donna Reed from the Donna Reed Show, and June from Leave it to Beaver. Fortunately, role models have changed since then and continue to evolve.

Our parents, teachers, cultures and history influence our behavior and what we think is acceptable and attainable. For example, my parents lived through the Great Depression. They, and most people in their generation, came to believe that resources were limited, and if they didn’t take what was available, they might not have another chance to get what it was they wanted – whether it was something tangible, like a job, a home, or a relationship, or something intangible, like an experience.  Granted, this was a difficult period in history, and called for extreme measures. However, in time, the Great Depression passed, but people’s beliefs often remained the same and were handed down to future generations. 

Denial comes in many forms. For instance, we may deny ourselves a vacation, because we think we shouldn’t spend the money, even though we may have more than enough to take it. Or, we may think we’re not talented enough to realize a goal or dream, and hold ourselves back from pursuing it. Or, we may fear losing someone’s approval if we don’t agree with them, and not express our own opinions. But denial comes with costs, including our health and happiness.

Perhaps it’s time to dream. 

Solution #6:  Visioning: Creating a New Reality

“The brain, in many ways, doesn’t distinguish real from imaginary.” 

– David R. Hamilton, Ph.D.

Step 1

Following up on Courage, (Solution #5 from my August 4,2020 post), think of something you’ve always wanted to do, to have or to experience, but haven’t done yet. It could be writing a book, learning to sky dive, starting a business, traveling abroad, or moving someplace new.

Step 2:

Close your eyes and visualize yourself engaged in the experience, noticing the intricate details: 

  • Where are you and what are you doing?
  • Are you alone or are there other people with you? 
  • If there are others with you, who are they and what are they doing?
  • Notice your environment. Are there any animals, trees or other life forms present?
  • What do you hear, see, smell or taste?
  • How do you feel as you engage in the activity?
  • What does the air feel like on your skin? 
  • Are you warm, hot, cold or neutral?
  • What are you wearing?
  • What benefits does the new activity provide for you?
  • How does it support you?
  • Stay with the experience and see what else you notice.
  • See yourself healthy, happy and successful, as you fulfill your dream or goal.
  • When you’re ready, open your eyes.
  • Write down your experience in as much detail as possible.

Tips:

  • As an alternative, put on some soft music, record the visualization and listen to it. It may help you to relax and have a deeper experience. 

NoteFor guidance on how to implement your vision, see “Solution #5: Embrace the Future You!” of Eight Obstacles to Attaining Balance and Solutions to Resolve Them – Part 2.

Obstacle #8: Overindulgence

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” 

 – Rumi

Overindulgence can stem from stress, anxiety, boredom, feelings of unworthiness, and from denying our needs and feelings, as well as our dreams and goals. Like a good friend, it informs us that there’s something in need of our attention.  It can include food, alcohol, shopping, sex, exercise, work and other people, to name a few! In other words – anything that distracts us from our inner being.

We all indulge from time to time – eating that second (or third!) piece of cake, binge watching a Netflix series (or two!) or having that extra drink –  and its’ not a big deal – it’s when overindulging becomes habitual that it signals there’s a problem.

When done consistently, overindulging slows us down, robs our energy, creates shame, and inhibits creativity. In other words, it steers us away from living full and authentic lives.

Solution #8: Staying Present

When tempted to overindulge, stop for just a minute. Notice how you feel, and if there’s something  triggering you: a thought, a memory; a difficult interaction, something you’ve seen or heard, feelings of insecurity, or fear when taking steps to pursue a dream or goal or doing something new.

Take a breath, staying present as you allow the feelings to surface and flow through you. Continue breathing, as you remind yourself that, in this moment, you’re safe, and it’s okay to feel. If you’re at home, you may find it helpful to journal. If you’re in public, take note of your feelings and do the exercise when you’re alone. If the sensations are too intense to handle, stop and seek support from a therapist, coach, mentor or trusted friend. 

When I was in my 30’s, I was smoking nearly two packs of cigarettes a day, and decided to quit the habit.  When the urge to light up came over me I took a walk instead of smoking. While the desire was initially strong, it usually passed within minutes. Replacing the habit with another behavior was key.

Stopping  habitual behaviors – even momentarily – helps us become more mindful and supports us in making empowering choices. 

Resources:  For additional reading, check out Pema Chodron’s books, such as Welcoming the Unwelcome and Uncomfortable with Uncertainty. Eckhart Tolle, Michael Singer and Dr. Joe Dispenza are also wonderful resources. 

With love,

Theresa

© Theresa Conti 2020

Bio

Theresa Conti was born and raised in New York. She is a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience.  Her books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself, and I Am the Treasure. 

Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience, so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges.

She offers a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals, and see how you might work together. She can be reached at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Posted October 10, 2020 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

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Six Practices: A Pathway to Making Good Decisions   Leave a comment

 “The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is the key to allowing yourself to take risks.” – Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.

Do you suffer from procrastination? Indecision? Have a difficult time knowing what to do? How do it? Or when? If so, you’re not alone.

Decision-making can be stressful. Weighing options, and the uncertainty that comes from stepping into the unknown, can make us question our thinking, elicit feelings of anxiety and stop us in our tracks. Whether you are concerned about the affects the pandemic will have on your future, are considering moving abroad and living as an expat in a new country or are wondering who to hire for that project that’s been sitting on the back burner, here are several practices I have developed to build trust and move us forward.

See which of the following six practices resonate with you. Try one or try them all.  Whichever you choose, each one will help to free a block that’s been keeping you feeling stuck.

Six Practices A Pathway to Making Good Decisions

Practice #1Let go. Release your expectations and painful outcomes from the past. Rather than obsess about what might happen, or what you did or did not do, choose to investigate instead.  Ask yourself: “What is there for me to learn from this situation?” I am a big fan of journaling and find the practice helpful. Perhaps you will, as well.

Practice #2:  When in doubt, don’t.  Forcing a solution before its time adds undo stress and can prevent new ideas from surfacing. Refocus your attention and give yourself, and the situation you are deliberating, some space. Trust that the guidance, answers and direction you seek will present themselves – likely when least expected.

Practice #3:  Face your fears. If you’re worried about making a wrong choice, start by making small ones.  Write your decisions down in a notepad or journal and begin taking small, manageable actions that lead you to your goal. Should you experience an unpleasant result, trust that you can handle it and re-evaluate the situation. People sometimes meet with failure before experiencing success. Look at Bill Gates and Colonel Sanders! ! Life may throw us curveballs, but don’t let fear keep you from moving forward.

Practice #4Reality check.  Make a list of all the good decisions you have made to date, and add to it daily.  Re-read as necessary to remember your successes.

Practice #5:   Do the next right thing. When feeling overwhelmed, rather than focusing on the big picture, chunk it down into small pieces and do the next right thing. This will reduce your anxiety and develop a foundation of trust. Each step will lead to the next, and will eventually guide you to where you’re meant  to be.

Practice #6: Appreciation. Acknowledge yourself for taking the actions and trying something new. Life is meant to be lived, one day at a time. Have fun and enjoy and journey!

With love,

Theresa

 © Theresa Conti 2020

Bio

Theresa Conti was born and raised in New York. She is a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience.  Her books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself, and I Am the Treasure.

Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience, so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges. She offers a 30-minute complimentary consultation to get acquainted, discuss your goals , and see how you might work together. She can be reached at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Connect with me on:

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/theresa-conti-clc-95b4972b/

Facebook at: www.facebook.com/Reconnecting2you

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/Reconnecting2Yo

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The Art of Inner Listening   Leave a comment

We have been living in the midst of change – in a time of uncertainty – leaving many of us wondering what will happen next as we move into a new phase of life. Although we may feel unclear about our direction, we can choose to take a breath, and open to something new.

 “There is a universal, intelligent, life force, that exists within everyone and everything. It resides within us as deep wisdom, an inner knowing. We can access this wonderful source of knowledge and wisdom through our intuition, an inner sense that tells us what feels right and true for us at any given moment. – Shakti Gawain

Ever struggle with trying to figure things out, only to experience greater conflict and confusion? The more we struggle, the further we drift from the answer.

Many years ago, I had a dream that I was in the ocean, but instead of swimming, I was drowning. I was living in Seattle at the time, unclear about my future and what to do in my next phase of life. I was trying to figure it out and was in a state of confusion about where to live, whether to complete a course of study I had recently begun, and whether to continue in my profession or find a new line of work, among other lingering questions. (Can you relate?)

As I observed the dream, I saw myself, clearly and vividly, as if watching a movie – arms flailing about above me, trying to stay afloat. I was far from shore, with nothing and no one in sight to rescue me. I was panicking, and the more fearful I became, the more difficult to stay above the choppy water. As I watched the dream unfold, I could tell that my energy was weakening, and saw myself periodically sinking beneath the water’s surface. Then – out of nowhere – a thought occurred to me: STOP STRUGGLING AND FLOAT. I heeded the message, and as if coming to my senses, lay flat on my back, arms relaxed and lying quietly beside me. Suddenly, the water became clear and calm. Although still far from shore, I could see land, and knew that I was safe.

I can see the dream in my mind’s eye as clearly as if it were yesterday. A powerful lesson. Although I still forget, and my arms occasionally flail about as I try to ‘figure things out,’ I know there is an easier way, and as I let go of the struggle, I find it.

Many of us are grappling with the same questions today. Where to go, and what to do as we move into a new stage of life. There are answers – dreams and desires that are still alive and active within you, waiting for the chance to rise to the surface, and guide you.  But we must learn how to listen.

One process I began many years ago, and continue to practice today, comes from The Art of Inner Listening by Jessie K. Crum.  I’ve shared a modified version of the practice with many of my clients, and in my intuition development workshops, with promising results. If you like to journal, or are willing to give it a try, the following exercise may provide you with some insights.

The Art of Inner Listening Practice

  1. Set aside some quiet time, away from external distractions.
  2. Have a pen and paper handy.
  3. Take a few breaths and let your mind and body relax. You might find it helpful to create a ritual or mood, like lighting a candle, or playing some soft music in the background, and be sure to silence your phone.
  4. Close your eyes and think of a situation that’s been troubling you. It may be a relationship, a work situation, a financial dilemma, or other concern.
  5. When you’re ready, open your eyes, and write the question below across the top of your paper:

“What does my Higher Self want to communicate to me about this situation?”

(Feel free to replace Higher Self with “Intuition,” “Inner Knowing,” or another word or phrase that resonates with you.)

  1. The answer may come in the form of an image, a word, a feeling, a sentence or a paragraph. It will feel clear and certain in your body, and won’t be judgmental or wordy. You may experience a sense of inner strength and security inside of you.
  2. If you’re tempted to direct or change the wording, stop and take a breath, letting go of preconceived expectations, or the need to get it right.

Tip: When I get stumped, I find it helpful to say the following phrases aloud: “I am willing to listen,” and “I hear only the truth.” Then relax and return to the process.

  1. When you’re done writing, sit with your answer. If it’s the voice of your intuition, you will feel a deep sense of peace and your answer will feel authentic and honest.
  2. Is there an action or next step you can take to implement your inner guidance?

Don’t worry if nothing happens or if the process doesn’t work for you the first time you try it. As with any skill, the more you follow your intuition, and see the results, the stronger it will become.

With love,

Theresa

© Article and Photo Theresa Conti 2020

Bio

Theresa Conti was born and raised in New York. She is a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years’ experience.  Her books include Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself, and I Am the Treasure. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience, so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams and better meet life’s challenges.  She has an international practice and provides coaching services via Skype, telephone, and other platforms. She can be reached at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Connect with me on:

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/theresa-conti-clc-95b4972b/

Facebook at: www.facebook.com/Reconnecting2you

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/Reconnecting2Yo

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Meditation: Healing Mind, Body and Soul   Leave a comment

Many of us are experiencing an increase of fear and anxiety as a result of our current health crisis, leaving us feeling vulnerable at a time when it’s important to strengthen our sense of well-being and fortify our immune systems.

Meditation is a wonderful tool for healing mind, body and soul, and there are many ways to practice. Guided meditation, repeating a mantra, counting your breath, and chanting are just a few ways that you can practice.

Anything that helps to focus your attention and quiet the mind can be used as a source fo meditation, such as cooking, painting, writing and dancing, among other activities. Being in the zone – so to speak – is the place where we transcend the ego and tap into a deeper, more authentic aspect of ourselves.

In 1985, I created Harvest Your Light, my first guided meditation program. I was inspired to produce it as my mother had been diagnosed with cancer and we were living in different areas of the country.  I wanted to send her something that would calm her mind, quiet her nervous system, and allow for healing to occur on whatever level was appropriate for her.

I invite you to find a practice that resonates with you. Here’s an easy way to get started:

  • Begin by sitting with your feet flat on the floor, with your hands on your lap, with palms up and the tips of your thumbs touching.
  • Gently close your eyes.
  • Then, slowly breathe in to the count of three, and breathe out to the count of six. (The practice entails breathing out twice as long as you breathe in.)
  • Repeat several times, until you feel yourself relax.
  • To augment the practice, place your right hand on your heart while doing the exercise. This, in itself, will help to calm the sympathetic nervous system.

Give it a try and see how it works for you.

Bio

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Facilitator and Author with more than 25 years experience. She specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, and develop inner resources, like confidence, courage and resilience, so they can live with greater ease, realize their goals and dreams, and better meet life’s challenges. For more information, and to schedule an appointment, email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.  Session are available internationally via Skype, telephone and FaceTime.

#meditation #healing

 

Posted March 26, 2020 by Reconnecting2you in Uncategorized

The Path of a Buddha: Right Speech   Leave a comment

“Our internal dialogue plays a vital role in shaping our perceptions of reality.” – Deepak Chopra

Communication entails more than the words we speak. It includes our thoughts, our body language, our perceptions, our ability to truly hear what someone is saying – without judgement – and for those of us whose cultures value it – eye contact.

When we think about communicating, we generally think about speaking with others, and forget that we are constantly communicating with ourselves. Our beliefs, attitudes, and the way we think about, and talk to ourselves, effects all aspects of our lives, including our self-esteem, our relationships, our work, and our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

Experts estimate that we have between 60,000-80,000 thoughts a day. Out of those, approximately 80% are negative, and 95% are repetitive – meaning we think the same thoughts every day and, in do so, reinforce the neural pathways in the brain. (The phrase “neurons that fire together wire together” was coined by neuropsychologist Donald Hebb in 1949 to describe how pathways in the brain are formed and strengthened through repetition.)

And for those of us who worry a lot, Dr. Robert Leahy, Clinical Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry at Weill Cornell University in New York, tells us that people who worry excessively spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about things that either will never happen, or that they’ll handle well if they do come about. Dr. Leahy goes on to say that one study found that 85% of the things that people worry about had positive – or at least neutral outcomes. (Leahy R. June 2013. Worry No More. URL cognitivetherapnyc.com/bottomh.pdf.) 

So, how can we retrain the brain so we can perceive reality more clearly?

The Path of a Buddha: Right Speech

“All that I am is the result of all that I have thought.” – The Buddha

Neuroscience tells us that the brain is geared toward negativity, based on our ancestors’ needs for survival. For instance, the likelihood of being attacked by an opposing tribe, or wild animals on the hunt for food, were real dangers and required our ancestors’ hypervigilance to ensure they and their tribes survived.

Most of us living in today’s world are fortunate: we have shelter, food, clothing, and access to medical care, and no longer need to be as vigilant. And yes, of course, there are exceptions. The point here, is that we often over focus on the negative and reinforce the negativity bias in our minds, recycling the negative messages we give ourselves.  The good news is, regardless of life’s circumstances, we can find things that are enjoyable and help our brains learn from the positive.

There are many ways to do this: stopping to savor your morning cup of coffee or tea, noticing a beautiful sunset, the joy of watching your children play, or feeling content when you finish the dishes. As we begin to notice the good facts in our lives, we can move into a more peaceful and empowered state of being, as we grow resources within ourselves for safety, satisfaction and connection.

Another process I find helpful is using and creating affirmations. However, just saying them has no lasting effect on the nervous system – we must embody the feelings that arise as we say them. This is essential in helping the brain lean in the direction of the positive.

What is an Affirmation?

For our purposes, an affirmation is a short, powerful statement, made in the present tense, using positive language.

***Here are a few examples***

“I Appreciate life and Always find things that please me.”

(As you say the affirmation, imagine someone or something you appreciate – a friend, a loved one, an animal, or something enjoyable, like a hot shower, the comfort of your bed, the warmth of your home, or your morning cup of coffee. Notice the feelings and sensations that arise as you think about or watch the scene unfolding. Let it grow bigger, and stay with the sensations for 5 to 10 seconds, or longer, letting them sink in to your body.)

“I Enjoy my life and Engage in activities that Excite me.”

(Imagine something you enjoy doing – either currently or in the past. Then as in the example above, notice the feelings and sensations as you think about, or watch, the scene unfolding, letting it grow bigger. Then, let the good feelings soak down in to your body, like water soaking in to a sponge. As in the example above, stay with the sensations for 5-10 seconds, or longer.)

Note: You can use the same process to imagine enjoying something you would like to do, but haven’t yet done. The experience will still register, as the neurons in your brain are  firing.)

“I surround myself with Friends and Family who love, respect and value me.”

(Use the same process as outlined in the examples above. If the affirmation doesn’t ring true for you, imagine what it would feel like to have friends and/or family who love, support and value you. Then continue with the process.  You can employ the same method in other situations.)

Regardless of which process you use, it’s important to stay with the good feelings for several breaths or seconds to give your nervous system the opportunity to learn from the positive experience.

Experiment and see what works best for you.

***Excperted from Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself  by Theresa Conti.***

Additional resources:

Hanson, R., Ph.D. Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. 2006. Harmony Books.

Leahy R., Ph.D. Worry No More: Five Simple Steps to End Those Troubling Thoughts and Fears. 2013.

“ALPHABET AFFIRMATIONS: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself,” was created out of a nightly gratitude practice , using the letters of the alphabet to help me get back to sleep in times of stress. I rarely made it to “z!”

One night, when feeling a little blue, I shifted my focus and used the letters of the alphabet to relax and comfort myself. I felt deeply cared for and nourished and sank into a deep and restful sleep. 

Each letter contains three affirmations, followed by space to write your own, along with instructions for how to use The Alphabet Process. 

A deeply healing and empowering practice.

Available on Amazon on Kindle or in paperback.

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Here’s What People Are Saying:

“A beautiful and simple concept. As easy as ABC! This sweet book offers a creative way to counter the leanings of the mind and provides exercises to stay buoyant and positive. My favorite letter is Q!

“A joyful and positive journey down alphabet lane. Each letter has affirmations that one may reflect on, contemplate and be inspired by. Feeling creative?  There is space to insert your own creations.  Beautiful concept and execution.

“Eh già!. Usando questo libro mi sono accorta di quanta resistenza si fa al giorno d’oggi a vedere, ansi no, a pensare POSITIVO! Devo dire GRAZIE GRAZIE e infinitamente GRAZIE all’autrice del libro che con questo semplice esercizio (ma per nulla scontato!) mi ha riportata a vedere le cose diversamente.”

“I’m pleased to read one affirmation every morning. These set a positive direction for my work day as well as days of rest and recharging.”
“Provides lots of ideas for how to make one’s life more positive  by visualizing in a fun way! Highly recommended!

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A Thanksgiving Message   Leave a comment

November 27, 2019

I returned to Italy three weeks ago today after an amazing three-month trip to The Netherlands, Germany, Belgium and the U.S.

It’s been a dream of mine to travel since I was quite young. As a teenager, I visualized myself on the planes as I watched them take off from the runways at LaGuardia Airport in New York, and imagined the adventures I’d have.

Then, in my early 20’s my dreams went underground, as my priorities shifted to being a mom and raising my son.

But the dreams that are ours never cease to exist, and one day, after my son turned 18, my dream re-emerged, much to my surprise and delight.

We never know how our dreams will be realized. My three-month trip involved home stays, petsitting, the generosity of friends who so graciously opened their homes to me and a few reservations at BNB’s.

It’s not our job to know how our dreams will come about – but knowing what we want is essential.

Think back on the dreams you once had, but haven’t acted on. Perhaps as a child, a young adult, or even recently. Chances are, they are still alive in your heart.

What if you decided to pursue them? How would realizing them feel?

Opening to the unknown can conjure feelings of dis-ease and anxiety. But reaching for the stars brings us alive.

Breathe deeply and know that life is awaiting you.

Trust where it is leading.

And, if you’re like me, you will give thanks that you followed.

Courageous

If the only prayer you ever said in your whole life was ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart

Thank you for giving me a place to share my thoughts and inspiration.

Wishing you a joy-filled holiday!

In loving service,

Theresa

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): Remembering Joni Mitchell   2 comments

July 28, 2019

“You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.” – Joni Mitchell

The lyrics to Joni Mitchell’s song, Big Yellow Taxi, has been swirling around my head this week.

It’s been a rough, but inspiring time, filled with various losses, as well as joy and excitement. My niece, Tami, unexpectedly passed away on Monday from heart failure. The news came as quite a shock to everyone, as she seemed to be recovering well after a standard procedure. She was 49 years old. A good spirt. Tough. Resilient. Loved and cherished.

The week also included transitioning from my apartment in Cavana, where I’ve lived for two plus years, and moving my belongings to a friends’ soffitta (attic / storage unit), as one of the owner’s family members has returned to Trieste and will be moving in to my apartment.

Life is constant change, and along with change often comes feelings of sadness and loss, as well as anticipation and delight for what may lie in front of us. While I am grieving the loss of my niece, and my home, I am also feeling deep appreciation for the gifts that both have given me. Love. Safety. Joy. Beauty. Strength. Harmony. Adventure. Challenge. Growth, and so much more. And, as I reflect on the past, I am also aware of how easy it is to take the people we treasure, and the experiences we cherish for granted; overlooking how precious life is, as it is occurring.

As the I-Ching informs us, there is another side to each and every experience. With every loss comes a birth, and with every change an opportunity.  For instance, I’ve had the honor of supporting my niece, “J,” in developing the resources within herself to ask for what she needs and wants as she is reaching out to family and friends for the help and support she requires; something she’s been afraid to do up until now. As a result, she is growing confidence, resilience and courage.

As for me and my living situation, while I haven’t yet found a new apartment, the pieces came together to spend the month of August in Amsterdam; a place I’ve been wanting to visit for quite some time. By Divine Design, I was gifted with multiple synchronicities so that my expenses for the trip, including lodging, airfare and ground transportation to get there will equal what I was paying for one month’s rent in Trieste. Quite the deal! And several friends have offered a couch or bed when I return to Trieste in November, if needed. (I’ll be traveling to New York and Seattle, WA after my European trip to visit my son and take care of some personal business; hence the extended date.) And while grieving and exhausted, I am reminded that Life is truly magnificent.

I am so grateful for the care and support that friends and acquaintances have shown me, and trust that my niece, Tami, is now transitioning to a new phase of life, yet to be discovered.

THIS WEEK’S TNT: Remembering Joni Mithcell

This week, take some time to reflect on how you’ve grown or what you’ve learned as a result of a personal challenge or loss.

For instance, I cherish my beautiful niece and the energy with which she blessed  the earth.  I am also grateful for the two plus years I’ve lived in my apartment in Trieste.

Reflecting on these experiences helps me heal and fills me with love and appreciation. They also help me accept what is, stay in the present, and open to the future.

What do you appreciate about your experience?

Grief has many faces: anger, denial, depression, bargaining and acceptance.  Let your feelings surface, whatever they may be. Appreciate and honor all of it.

Then when ready, reflect on what the situations and people in your life have provided you.

Notice the good feelings and let them fill you and soak into your body. Love. Peace. Belonging. Pleasure.  Like a cleansing balm, the vibration of appreciation can renew and heal you.

With love, Theresa

Disclaimer: Theresa Conti is a not a licensed therapist or medical doctor. The coaching services and exercises provided by Ms. Conti and Reconneting2You are not a substitute for medical care or mental health counseling and are done at the user’s risk.

PS: If you’re a fan of Joni Mitchell and/or you’d like to hear her sing Big Yellow Taxi, you can watch her perform by clicking on the link at the bottom of the post.

As a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Leader and Author with more than 25 years’ experience, it gives me great pleasure to help my clients grow the resources they need so they can flourish and lead the lives they desire. I look forward to working with you.

For more information and to schedule an appointment email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com. Coaching and healing sessions are available internationally by Skype and telephone, and in person in Trieste, Italy.

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Gratitude: Growing Happiness Inside of You & Our “Beautiful Pathways” Nature Walk   Leave a comment

Gratitude is literally one of the few things that can measurably change people’s lives.” – Bob Emmons, Ph.D.

I recently had the opportunity to listen to an interview with Bob Emmons, Ph.D. – a leading authority on gratitude and author of Gratitude Works, who spoke on the benefits of gratitude. The interview was part of a year long training program I am attending in the application of positive neuroplasticity  with Dr. Rick Hanson.

While gratitude has often been thought of as a touchy-feeling spiritual practice, with perhaps little to no practical implications, gratitude, in fact, has been scientifically proven to have multiple physical, psychological and social benefits. Here are just a few:

Research has shown that adults who practice gratitude on a regular basis experience the following benefits:

Physical

  • Exercise more regularly and take better care of their health
  • Report fewer illness symptoms
  • Have stronger immune systems
  • Are less bothered by aches and pains
  • Have lower blood pressure
  • Respond more effectively to daily stressors, and may show increased resilience when confronted with trauma induced stress
  • Sleep an average of 30-minutes longer each night and wake feeling more alive and vital

Psychological

  • Have higher levels of positive emotions, such as joy, enthusiasm and love
  • Are protected from envy, greed, resentment and bitterness
  • Are more alert, alive and awake
  • Feel more optimistic and happier
  • Have fewer toxic negative emotions
  • Can experience a decrease in the duration and frequency of depression
  • Have a higher sense of self-worth

Social

  • Are more helpful, generous and compassionate
  • Feel more loving, joyful, forgiving and enthusiastic
  • Are more outgoing
  • Have improved relationships
  • Have increased feelings of connectedness, and even altruism
  • Experience increased social support

THIS WEEK’S TIP ‘N TOOL

PRACTICE: GROWING HAPPINESS THROUGH GRATITUDE

People who kept a gratitude journal once a week for 10-weeks reported a 25% increase in happiness. So…

This week you can begin your gratitude practice by starting a gratitude journal.

For instance, you might like to purchase a journal or notebook that appeals to you, and that brings a sense of pleasure to look at and write in.

Then, once a week (or more often, if you like), write five things your grateful for.

As an extra boost, at the beginning or end of every day, spend a little quiet time reflecting on the “good facts” in your life.

For instance, the comfortable bed you’re lying on, the sun shining through your window, the warmth (or coolness) of the air on your skin, etc.  (I like to do this in the evening, while lying in bed, just prior to sleeping.)

Then, soak in the good feelings that arise as you reflect on what you’ve written in your gratitude journal and as you review the good facts in your life at the beginning or end of the day.

The practice of “soaking in the good” is an important step and will help to tilt your brain in the direction of happiness and positivity.

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Six Practices to Build Trust and Move Forward, Plus New Coaching Program   Leave a comment

“The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way
is the key to allowing yourself to take risks.”
– Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
 
Do you suffer from procrastination? Indecision? Have a difficult time knowing what to do? How do it? Or when? If so, you’re not alone.
Decision-making can be stressful. Weighing options, and the uncertainty that comes from stepping into the unknown, can make us question our thinking, elicit feelings of anxiety and stop us in our tracks. Whether you are anticipating a new job, a new home, or who to hire for that project that’s been sitting on the back burner, these six practices can help you build trust and move forward.
See which of the following six practices resonate with you. Try one or try them all.  Whichever you choose, each one will help to free a block that’s been keeping you feeling stuck.
Six Practices to Build Trust and Spring You Forward
Practice #1: Let go. Release your expectations and painful outcomes from the past. Rather than obsess about what might happen, or what you did or did not do, choose to investigate instead.  Ask yourself: “What is there for me to learn from this situation?” I am a big fan of journaling and find the practice helpful. Perhaps you will, as well.
Practice #2:  When in doubt, don’t.  Forcing a solution before it’s time adds undo stress, and can prevent new ideas from surfacing. Try letting go instead. Refocus your attention and give yourself, and the situation you are deliberating, some space. Trust that the guidance, answers and direction you seek will present themselves. Likely, when least expected.
Practice #3:  Face your fears. If you’re worried about making a wrong choice, start by making small decisions.  Write your decisions down in a notepad or journal and begin taking compatible actions. Should you experience an unpleasant result, trust that you can handle it and re-evaluate the situation. Making small decisions will strengthen your ability and increase your confidence.
Practice #4: Reality check.  Make a list of all the good decisions you have made to date, and add to it daily.  Re-read as necessary.
Practice #5:   Do the next right thing. When feeling overwhelmed, rather than focusing on the big picture, chunk it down and do the next right thing. This will reduce your anxiety and develop a foundation of trust. Each step will lead to the next, and will eventually guide you exactly where you are meant to be.
Practice #6:  Appreciation. Acknowledge yourself for taking the actions and trying something new. Life is meant to be lived one day at a time. Have fun and enjoy the journey!
As always, I would love to hear your comments!
With love,
Theresa
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ABOUT THERESA

 

I am a Certified Life Coach, Energy Healing Practitioner, Workshop Leader and Author with more than 25 years’ experience. It gives me great pleasure to help my clients grow the resources they need so they can flourish and lead the lives they desire. I look forward to working with you.

For more information and to schedule an appointment email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com. Coaching and healing sessions are available internationally by Skype and telephone, and in person in Trieste, Italy.

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