Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Forgiveness: Moving From Darkness To Light   Leave a comment


Forgiveness is a powerful practice.  As we let go of resentments, and the people we feel have hurt us, or caused harm to those we love, our lives are transformed as we free ourselves to receive a greater flow of love, joy, health and abundance.

This week’s TNT provides a three-step process to help you let go of the past and open your heart.

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With love,


Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Forgiveness: Moving From Darkness To Light

“Forgiveness is the key to happiness.”

– A Course in Miracles, Lesson 121

As I was contemplating this week’s TNT, the practice of forgiveness came to mind. I’ve written on the topic several times, as it’s a key ingredient for happiness. As I sat at my desk, I felt compelled to share on it again.

I once heard Marianne Williamson, who lectures on A Course in Miracles say, “resentments are like a thin slice of hate.” Although I heard the quote over 20 years ago, the image made such an impression that it continues to stay with me.

Having worked in the healing field for more than 30 years, I am well aware, from my own processes, and those of my clients, that the body responds to resentments like a tight rope around one’s neck. They off our circulation and limit the flow of Life’s Good into our experience. Forgiveness is often confused with condoning someone’s behavior. Nothing is further from the truth. Forgiveness is a practice we do to free ourselves, and in so doing, our health and well-being are subject to improve.

Feelings of animosity can be hard to admit, let alone, sit with. However, the first step in releasing resentments is honesty. Like casting light onto darkness, it is imperative to acknowledge whatever feelings are lurking beneath the surface before we feel a sense of relief and freedom. While it is not necessary to share your feelings with others, being honest with yourself is crucial.

This 3-Step Process will help you to let go of the past and open your heart.

Like any practice, you may need to repeat it multiple times before you feel complete.

Before you begin, I invite you to set the tone by powering down your phone, lighting a candle, and creating a space that feels safe and inviting. Next, take a few deep breaths and envision yourself embraced in a warm and loving light. Know that you are safe and cared for. Then follow the outline below.

Step 1: Begin by asking yourself the following question. You can write it in your journal or, if you prefer, speak and answer it aloud. Choose whichever method feels most comfortable.

“Who do I need to forgive and why?”

Step 2: Trust your intuition and go with the first person or situation that comes to mind. It may be an individual, a political group, a government or an organization. Then, state what you forgive them for. Be sure to be specific. Use the following sentence as your model:

The person I need to forgive is _________.  I forgive you for___________.

You may feel multiple resentments for the same person. If so, repeat the sentence until you feel complete. Allow yourself to sit with any feelings that may emerge in the process. Like toxins stored in the body, the anger, disappointment or sadness needs to be released.

Step 3: When you feel ready, complete the process by saying the following statement or create one of your own that helps you release the situation and let go:

(State the person’s name)_____________, I now bless you and release you to your Highest Good and I am freed to mine. (Add anything else that you feel guided to say.)

As you complete the practice, notice how you feel in your body. Let that be the key that informs your future actions.

As always, I would love to hear your comments and the results of the exercise, should you choose to use it.

With love,


© Theresa Conti 2016

If there someone in your life you would like to forgive and would like support with the healing process, it would be my pleasure to serve you.

Email and schedule a complimentary consultation.

Reference: “Love and Forgiveness,” by Leonard Shaw, M.S.W.

Disclaimer: Please note that this three-step process may bring up feelings that are painful and uncomfortable. As with any exercise, the choice to use it is at your own risk and is your personal responsibility.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients transform their stress into harmony and balance, so they can realize their dreams, and live healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.  To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at


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