Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Grief   Leave a comment

“Some pain is simply the normal pain of human existence. That is the pain I try to make room for. I honor my grief.” –  Marianne Williamson

During times of loss – whether it be loss through the transition of someone we cared for and loved, loss of a job, a relationship, a financial downturn, or other situation, we are often told to move on before we are ready; to suck it up and lick our wounds. And if we don’t, we may lose friends or be told we’re too sensitive. But grief has a life of its own.

It’s easy to distract ourselves with work, food, television, or other activities, and; there may be times we need to step away and give ourselves a break. But denying our feelings and suppressing our emotions doesn’t make grief go away.

The five stages of grief, identified by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, include:

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Bargaining
  4. Depression
  5. Acceptance

However, we do not move through them in a linear fashion, and they may arise when we least expect them. For instance, I recall walking into a supermarket several months after my mother died. I had been feeling fine, but broke into tears when I entered the store. I have no idea what brought it on, as I was living 3,000 miles away. I stopped and let the tears flow. A few minutes later the emotions passed and I continued to shop.

It’s being present with the process that allows us to heal.

I recall Stephen Levine, one of my dearest teachers, saying that even missing a phone call elicits a momentary experience of grief.

Today’s TNT:

If you’re experiencing loss, allow yourself to honor your grief.

Share your experience with a trusted friend.

Sit with your feelings.


Join a grief support group

Trust your process.

Take the time you need.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.



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