Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Adjust Your Sails   Leave a comment

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean

Change can be scary, and fear of the unknown can keep us stuck in our tracks. To the outside world we may appear to be happy and comfortable. But are we?

As you many of you know, I made a major change in my life earlier this year when I relocated to Trieste, Italy. Sure, I had fear, anxiety and doubts. Who wouldn’t? After all, I was moving away from friends and family and creating a total life overhaul. It took two years to get here, but one day, one step at a time, I made it. And so can you. Your dreams may be different than mine – perhaps you would like to learn a new skill, take an art or dance class, change jobs, begin or end a relationship or pursue any number of goals that you have put on the back burner.

Our brains are hardwired to think the worst. It’s a survival mechanism inherited from our ancestors and designed to keep us alive when lions, tigers and dinosaurs threatened our very existence. Despite the news, which focuses on sensationalism and negativity, statistics show that the world is safer today than it was in the past, yet we are conditioned to think the opposite.***

So what to do? And how do you adjust your sails to reach your desired destination when fear is keeping you anchored to your comfort zone? Is the change you would like to make really as threatening as it seems? To whom or what are you listening to? The ancient part of your brain or your inner wisdom, which is always for your greater good and happiness?


Set aside some quiet time. Have paper and pen handy. Take a few deep breaths and answer the following questions:

What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do, but were afraid of doing?

What’s the worst that could happen if you do it?

What’s holding you back?

Are the obstacles that are holding you back real, or thoughts you’ve come to believe are true?

What’s one thing you can do to move forward?

Are you ready to do it?

What’s one action you can take this week to pursue it?

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love, Theresa

***Check out Steven Pinker’s research online or read his book, “The Better Angels of Our Nature” to learn more about his findings.

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? Email to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Available internationally by Skype and telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.



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