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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) We Are Beacons of Light   Leave a comment

“Shine your light and make a positive impact on the world; there is nothing so honorable as helping improve the lives of others.” – Roy T. Bennett

I am reading the book “The Power of You,” by Chris Michaels. I have just finished the first chapter. The book is about our relationship with the Divine – the spiritual Presence we know by many names: God, Spirit, Creator. What we call “It” doesn’t matter.

We are all Divinely connected. Individual and unique expressions of Life; each with our own gifts and talents, and capacities for loving and giving. This is how we can truly change the world – by following our bliss; our dreams; our goals; and knowing there is a Divine Presence that wants the best for us. We are Its channels.

We add value to the world, and make a difference in the lives of others, by the simple things we do.

I recently sent a small amount of money to an elderly relative who is living on social security, and a small amount of food stamps. It’s something I learned from my father, who always impressed me with his generosity and I now follow in his footsteps, when I feel called and inspired to do so. Not from obligation, but from a place of loving presence.

We are beacons of light. We have the power to love, to heal, to care for and to bless one another, through our words, our actions, and the very essence of who we are.

I received a message from my relative the other day thanking me, and letting know that my contribution made a significant difference to her sense of security and well-being. It was a small gift, but it meant the world to her.

Our acts of kindness don’t have to be financial – they can be whatever we feel guided and inspired to do, moment by moment. And in doing so, we lift the lives of others, and ourselves, and increase the vibrations of love and well-being on our planet.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

What’s one act of kindness you can do today to make a difference in someone’s life?

It can be an act of kindness to someone you know or to a perfect stranger.

Notice how good it feels to contribute to another’s sense of well-being.

Not from obligation, or winning favor, but from a spirit of love and generosity.

And what we give will come back to us in ways we may never fathom. Like a sacred circle.

Try it for a day, a week, a month, a lifetime.

Little by little, our acts of kindness can, and do, make a difference.

It’s all a matter of practice.

If you like, try using the following affirmation from Chapter 11 of

ALPHABET AFFIRMATIONS: TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE AND LOVE YOURSELF

“MY HEART IS OPEN WIDE. I SPREAD KINDNESS EVERYWHERE I GO.

Then let your heart fill with love, and like a soothing balm flowing through you, let the good feelings fill your body.

As always, I would love to hear your comments, and how this week’s TNT works for you.

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing Practitioner, Author, and Workshop Leader with more than 25 years’ experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and create greater health, happiness and fulfillment. She is trained in positive psychology, neuroscience, practical spirituality, among other modalities.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Just Say “No”   Leave a comment

“Although it may feel uncomfortable to think about saying no, it’s important to remember that each time you say yes to someone, or something else, you say no to you and your priorities.” – Oprah Winfrey

We want to be kind. We want to be loved. We want to give because it feels good, and we want to be generous with our gifts, talents, abilities and time. But how often do we say “yes” to requests from friends, colleagues, family members, and others, when we know, within our heart of hearts, that it means taking time away from caring for ourselves?

Saying “no” can conjure up feelings of guilt and shame, because we may think it’s self-centered, and be afraid that others may judge us. But people learn how to treat us by how we treat ourselves.

Giving and receiving is an art of balance. But how can we achieve it? Change begins with awareness. Are you aware of how often you say “yes” when you would rather say “no?” The answer may surprise you!

THIS WEEK’S TNT

This week, make not of how many times you say “yes,” when you would rather say “no.”

Keep a record in a small notebook or make a list on your phone.

Notice how you feel when you say “yes” to something you don’t want to do.

Do you feel resentful, angry, frustrated, stressed, or exhausted?

Your body is giving you clues!

At the end of the week, add up the number of entries in your notebook.

Then,  make a list of five things you would like to say “no” to.

Start with something small.

You don’t need to explain or justify yourself.

Don’t know what to say?

Here’s a rule of thumb you can follow:

Say what you mean. Mean what you say. But don’t say it mean.

Learning to say “no” takes practice. But you can learn how to say it.

The more you practice, the easier it will become.

You will feel better, and while some relationships may fall away, others will deepen and grow.

As always, I would love to hear your comments about how this week’s TNT worked for you and what it is you discovered.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Would You Rather Be Right or Happy?   2 comments

“Ever since happiness heard your name, it has been running through the streets trying to find you.” – Hafez

I was first introduced to the question “Would you rather be right or happy?” as a student of A Course in Miracles back in the 1980’s. It was a profound turning point, and changed the way I viewed my relationships and my perceptions of life.

The mind is riddled with judgment and loves to be right, which creates conflict within ourselves and our personal and global relationships.

The state of the world, and the stress we experience, often stem from our thoughts and perceptions. What would happen if we suspended our judgments for just one day and created space to listen and understand one another? To find common ground? And extend love and compassion to ourselves instead of comparing what we have and who we are to others?

Suspending judgment doesn’t mean we accept the status quo or don’t change what isn’t working when our human needs for love and security are neglected. Rather, it calls for questioning whether our judgments and opinions about ourselves, and others, are accurate.

Our happiness resides within and is waiting to be found. Let’s discover it!

THIS WEEKS TNT

Choose one day during the week to experiment.

Stop at regular intervals during the day to take note of your thoughts and perceptions.

Choose an activity that you engage in throughout the day to serve as a reminder to stop and observe what you are thinking.

Take a breath and notice any stress or discomfort in your body as you take note of your thoughts.

Ask yourself if the thought or perception is accurate.

Is it based on the past or the present?

Is it yours or someone else’s?

How else can you view the situation?

What, if any changes, are you aware of?

As always, I would love to hear your comments about how this week’s TNT worked for you and what it is you discovered.

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Compassion   Leave a comment

“Love and compassion are necessities not luxuries.  Without them humanity cannot survive.” – Dalai Lama

I have been using a deck of Angel Cards designed by Joy Drake and Kathy Tyler as part of my morning meditation since the mid 1980’s, when I was introduced to them at my first Reiki gathering at Breitenbush  Hot Springs in Oregon. Last Friday, I choose the Angel of Compassion. I had just experienced a misunderstanding with a friend and presumed the card was meant for us. So I thought of him, and then myself, and sent us each some love.

I was in Rovinj, Croatia at the time, on a short vacation, and had been eating at a restaurant that served a healthy breakfast and was removed from the throngs of tourists. But on this particular day, I wanted to sit by the water and decided to try a new cafe. As I finished my breakfast, and took my supplements, I happened to look behind me and saw a man sitting alone, who asked if I was taking medication. I said “no,” and explained they were vitamins, and part of my health routine. We then struck up a conversation. I learned that he was from Belgium and that his wife had died two months ago. He explained that they used to go to Rovinj for their annual vacation. He said he wasn’t sure what he was doing there or if he made the right choice in coming. He then begin to cry. I thought of the Angel of Compassion and opened my heart. I tried to give him words of comfort and understanding. We talked for some 10 to 15 minutes.

We never know where life is taking us or why we are led to certain places or people. Perhaps there is a higher order prompting us to go where we are most needed or to those who can provide the help we seek.

THIS WEEKS TNT

Notice where you feel compelled to go or with whom to meet or speak with.

Trust your intuition to guide you.

Notice the results.

Your instincts will get stronger the more frequently you listen.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. Available internationally by Skype and U.S. telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

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Compassion: An Antidote to Perfectionism   2 comments

“I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.”   – Lao Tzu

I’ve been working on a new brochure and updating the coaching page of my website. While I am grateful for the benefits of modern technology, sitting in front of my computer and learning new software skills is not one of my favorite things to do or an area where I feel particularly proficient.  Add several software crashes and formatting problems to the mix and ta-da! A perfect recipe for a stressful week, and a visit from a pesky friend: perfectionism! But there is an antidote that can shift everything.

If you subscribe to astrology, you may already know that people born under the sign of Aires (guess who?!) have a proclivity toward adventure, courage, spontaneity, enthusiasm, and  making things happen. We are also fiercely independent. All well and good! However, the flip side of an Aires nature includes a few challenging characteristics, as well. Namely,  impatience, impulsiveness and  a sense of strong-headedness and determination. After all, we’re represented by the Ram.

However, you don’t need to be an Aires to experience the characteristics of the sign.

Here are a few key questions on which to rate yourself on the perfection / impatience scale. Be honest now, and score yourself accordingly.

1)  You tend to be harder on yourself than you are on other people?                                          True     False

2)  You push yourself to accomplish more, be more, do more?                                                    True     False

3)  You keep working, even when tired or needing a toilet break?                                               True    False

4)  You’re short-tempered and may do or say things you later regret?                                        True    False

5)  You would rather do it yourself than ask for or accept someone’s help?                                 True     False

6)  You strive for perfection and have a difficult time accepting things as good enough?              True     False

      (Can be helpful or not, depending on one’s mental state and attitude)

7)  You don’t like waiting and are impatient with people who procrastinate?                               True      False

If you answered “True” to one or more of these questions, you may have a little impatience or perfectionist brewing inside of you!

But don’t despair. There is an antidote.

Although I wasn’t responsible for the software crashes, gosh darn it, I was determined to sit at my desk and work until  “I got it.”  Take it from me, folks. That’s not always the best remedy.

What I learned? After two stressful weeks of working on my projects (while Mercury was in retrograde, no less!)  I laid in bed one night and asked for help. I went to sleep, and woke the next morning felt completely renewed.  The stress was lifted and I was filled with a deep sense of love and compassion, much like a parent might feel for a child.  My determination and strong will replaced by a beautiful sense of healing and balance that allowed me to complete my projects from a place of strength, resourcefulness and fulfillment.

These words from the Dalai Lama:

“…compassion is considered a positive emotion. In generating compassion, you start by recognizing that you do not want suffering, and that you have a right to have happiness. This becomes the basis of your beginning to generate compassion.”

If  and when perfectionism comes knocking at your door, here are few helpful suggestions to regain your sense of harmony and balance:

  1. Be mindful. Recognize when you are feeling  pressure or experiencing stress and give yourself a break.
  2. Be willing to ask for help, both spiritually, and from your earthly friends and family.
  3. Pay attention to the guidance you receive and take steps to act on it.
  4. Stop when feeling compulsive or driven, and do something else instead.
  5. Listen to your body’s needs. Stretch. Eat. Drink water. Rest.

The Course in Miracles tells us that we teach what we need to learn. As a Life Coach specializing in helping my clients manage their stress, I hope what I have learned will help you.

As always, I would love to hear from you.  Please include your comments by clicking on the “Comments” link next to the blog title.

Many blessings, Theresa

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Presenter with more than 25 years in the healing field. She has written several articles on the mind-body connection, and has spoken about these topics on public access TV, has written and published “I Am the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and created and produced “Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program.

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