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Reducing Holiday Stress: Say “No” to Get to “Yes,” Plus 2 Days Left   Leave a comment

Dear Friends,

Do you find it easy to say “Yes,” to others’ requests, but hard to say “Yes” to yourself?

Do you have a vision or intention for how to spend your holidays, but get hijacked by requests that you have a hard time saying “No” to?

The holidays can be a time of joy and cheer, as well as elicit feelings of stress and pressure.

While we may enjoy all that the holidays offer as we attend parties and other events; decorate our homes; shop for special gifts; visit friends and travel to see relatives and; make our favorite holiday recipes, among other festivities, we can also feel stretched and experience a strain on our time, energy, and financial reserves.

We may rationalize our decision to forgo our own needs, because we don’t want to offend our friends and family members, or risk disapproval from those we love or value.

But saying “No” provides an opportunity for others to grow, and care for themselves, and respect your personal needs.

Here are seven tips, and related questions, to help you gain clarity and take care of yourself this holiday season:

1. Take Inventory

– When are you saying “Yes” when you would rather say “No?”

– Are there particular circumstances or people who present a challenge?

2.  Be Mindful

– How does it feel in your body when you say “Yes” instead of “No?”

– Pay attention to stress and tension.

3.  Is what you fear will happen really true?

– How do you know?

– Is what you’re afraid of happening absolutely true?

– Regardless of what has happened in the past, this is a new moment.

– How can you take care of yourself if what you’re afraid of actually happens?

4.  What is saying “Yes” costing you?

– Are you tired and forfeiting rest?

– Do you have the financial resources to travel or buy expensive presents?

– Do you want to attend the events you’ve been invited to, or go out of obligation and later feel angry or resentful?

– What other costs might there be?

5.  Are you willing to pay the price?

– If you’re answer is “Yes,” do so with awareness. What will the payoffs be?

– If your answer is “No,” what could you do instead” (See #6 below)

6.  Saying “No” takes practice

– If you’re feeling nervous about expressing yourself, you may find it helpful to write down what it is you want to say.

– Then practice with a friend, a coach, or even in the mirror!

7.  Moving Forward

– What qualities do you need to grow inside yourself in order to feel comfortable setting healthy boundaries?

– Reflect on a time you were presented with a challenge and took care of yourself by setting a healthy boundary.

– Notice how the positive sensations feel in your body, and let the feelings flow through you.

– You can also think about how you felt – perhaps you felt a sense of confidence, or felt secure or empowered.

– Let the good feelings soak in as you stay with the experience for five to 20 seconds.

As always, I would love to hear from you.

With love,

Theresa

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Traveling da Sola, Plus Special Announcements   Leave a comment

” Traveling solo does not always mean. you’re alone. Most often, you meet marvelous people along the way and make connections that last a lifetime.” – Jacqueline Boone

Although I’ve gone to many events alone since I was a teenager (concerts, movies, theater), I haven’t always liked traveling da sola. But when I was in my early 30’s, I grew tired of waiting for other people to join me and decided to venture out on my own! So last Sunday, like many other days, I packed my back and set out. This time to someplace local.

It was the first day, in too many to count, that the sun had finally come out. And what a beautiful day it was!

I began by casting my first vote, ever, in Italy’s national elections. As a dual citizen, I have the ability and privilege. It was quite a beautiful experience.

After casting my vote, I decided to hop on a boat and take the 30-minute ride to Muggia, a quaint little town across the Gulf of Trieste, which I periodically like to go to. The air felt warm on my face and hands and the ride was calm and pleasant. I had gone to Muggia just the day before, when a friend took me on a little adventure and showed me a path that stretches for miles along the shore. That’s where I was heading.

The advantage of traveling alone is that you can follow your nose and change direction whenever you feel inspired. I walked for an hour – about three miles – then decided to hop on the #7 bus and go to Lazzaretto – a small town two miles or so down the road. At first glance, it didn’t look like there was much to see, so contemplated returning to Muggia. But aha! I then spotted a sign for Vigna Sul Mar and hopped off the bus just in time – seconds before it returned to Muggia. What a glorious experience it was! I took lots of photos as I walked through the vineyard, shared an apple with a horse I befriended along the way, and later met Mr. Urizio, the vineyard’s owner, with whom I struck up a conversation. Although my Italian language skills are still pretty basic, we had a nice connection. He asked if I wanted to see the cantina where he stores his wine and oil, and of course, I was delighted! And yes, there’s more – as I was leaving, he called to me, and brought me a bottle of olive oil!

Traveling alone is an adventure! While all types of travel can help us expand and learn from each other, traveling da sola is special. It opens doors and provides us with experiences we would likely never have if we were traveling with another.

THIS WEEKS TNT

Up for some adventure, but feel uncomfortable going alone?

TRY THIS:

Choose someplace you would like to go that helps you stretch, but isn’t too far out of your comfort zone.

It could be someplace near or far, someplace new, or a place you would like to return to.

DO YOUR RESEARCH

Look into resources for how to get to and fro, and timetables to help you plan your trip, if needed.

GET SUPPORT

Connect with friends who have traveled alone to get their support and feedback.

GET READY TO GO!

If going on a day trip, consider bringing a day pack with a bottle of water and snacks.

If going further, take clothes that you can mix and match and keep your suitcase light.

When feeling anxious about striking out on your own, start small and build on your successes!

With love, Theresa

WANT TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE AND CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE?

ALPHABET AFFIRMATIONS: TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE AND LOVE YOURSELF IS AN EASY TO USE AND EMPOWERING PROCESS THAT CAN HELP YOU REVAMP YOUR MINDSET AND LIVE THE LIFE THAT YOU DESIRE.

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“Theresa’s book and techniques will help guide you on your path to transformation. When you create a life you love and are grateful for your life, mind, body and spirit receive the love message and all benefit.”   Bernie Siegel, M.D., Author of 365 Prescriptions For The Soul 

“A beautiful and simple concept – as easy as ABC! This sweet book offers a creative way to counter the leanings of the mind and provides exercises to stay buoyant and positive — and it offers a section to add even more affirmations to the mix! How cool is that? A great book to have on hand as a reminder that every moment is a new moment and it “affirms” that one can transform their thoughts and their lives in a quick minute. My favorite letter is Q!” – S.G.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Be Bold   Leave a comment

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” – Goethe

The term “bold” still scares the bejesus out of me – or at least the part of me that’s afraid of being eaten by tigers! And…the little kid in me who feels afraid of the unknown and wants to feel protected and safe. But that’s not who I am. The former dates back to prehistoric times and is no longer valid. The later stems from childhood and is the part of me that needs comfort and soothing. If you have similar feelings about the word “bold,” the same may be true for you.

Who we are is often more than we give ourselves permission to live up to. Change involves risk – after all, one never knows the future – or the results of the actions we take. Our primary goal is to follow our inner calling and act with confidence and faith (or act as if we have them!), as we take a breath and begin moving forward.

A question I have found helpful for myself, and often ask clients who are unhappy or dissatisfied with their current life experience is:

“What will you regret not having done when you’re lying on your death bed?”

The answer is readily apparent, when we are open to listening. And when we don’t, we will feel out of balance, and may experience depression and physical symptoms.

For me, it meant letting go of my home in New York, selling my belongings, leaving family and friends, and fulfilling my dream of relocating to Italy; re-establishing close and healthy relationships with my family; and, using my gifts and talents to be of greater service in the world. Goethe’s quote is accurate – my life is expanding and my dreams have, and are, coming true. And yours can, too.

It takes guts to move our dreams into action. But that’s what leads to greater happiness, fulfillment and magic. Are you ready to begin?

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Ask yourself:

“What will I regret not having done at the end of my lifetime?”

Write your answer down and place it where you can easily see it.

Reflect on it daily.

Make a list of what it would take to accomplish.

Create an action plan to realize it.

Take the first step and open to the magic.

You’ll know you’re on track when the energy starts flowing.

If you get stuck, reach out to friends, professionals, and colleagues you know will support you.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. Available internationally by Skype and U.S. telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Just Ask   Leave a comment

Do you ever want to ask for something, but shy away because you are afraid of being rejected? Or that your request is too outrageous? A couple of days ago, I had a wonderful reminder of just how awesome asking can be!

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool)  Just Ask

Years ago I participated in a four-day program called “On Course,”  a personal development program offered through The Center for Spiritual Living in Seattle. People who attended “On Course” and “EST,” told me the programs were similar, with the exeception of “On Course” being the more spritutal of the two.

One of the modules focused on making requests and asking for what we wanted, regardless of how outrageous we, or others, might think our requests to be. It was quite brilliant! Michael and Paulette Sun, who taught the course, challenged us to stretch our comfort zones and ask for what we really wanted, rather than asking for second best. The caveat was that we let go of our attachments and to be willing to hear whatever answer we received – which could be “yes,” “no,” or a negotiated verson of our requests. I felt liberated and took it to heart and ran with it. However, I must confess, being human, there have been times I’ve forgotten those words of wisdom and have had a slip or two. Fast forward…

As you may know, I’ve written my first e-book entitled  “Alphabet Affirmations To Transform Your Life and Love  Yourself,” and have gotten some great reviews. A few days ago, I felt inspired to contact Dr. Bernie Siegel (founder of Exceptional Cancer Patients and author of Love, Medicine and Miracles, among other books), and ask for a review. I felt a bit reluctant, after all, he was renowned surgeon and published author.  And then, the better part of me kicked in!  How would I know what his response would be unless I asked?  Astonished, I received a reply within minutes and got an awesome review later that day.

The next time you’re hestiant to ask for something “big,” take a breath, get support, if needed, then go ahead and do it! You may hear “yes,” “no,” or receive an alternative response. If you keep an open mind, a postive outlook, and let go of the outcome, the answer may surprise you!

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and create healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.  To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Making Life Changes   Leave a comment

Most of us are in the process of change. Change can elicit a variety of feelings, which can either prompt us to move forward or keep us feeling anxious and stuck. Whether our desired changes are “large” or “small,” we may hesitate to implement them.

You may feel excited, exhilarated, scared, apprehensive, or may be experiencing a combination of feelings as you consider your desired change. Here are several questions that will help you clarify your process and muster the confidence and courage to move forward:

  1. What have you always wanted to do, but are afraid of doing?
  2. What would be the benefit of making your desired change?
  3. What beliefs, ideas or feelings are holding you back from making the desired change?
  4. What is the payoff for maintaining the status quo?
  5. How would your life be different if you were make the desired change?
  6. On a scale from 1 – 10, (10 is the highest), how committed are you to making this change?
  7. What means of support, or other factors, do you need to have in place in order to make the desired change?
  8. What is one step you could take this week to move forward?

If you would like support moving forward on your path, it would be my pleasure to speak with you.

Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com for a free 30-minute consultation

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Celebrate Your Success   Leave a comment

This week marked my fifth anniversary as a Reconnective Healing Practitioner. While the work has made a huge difference in my life, and in the lives of many of my clients, I would have completely overlooked the date had I not received email from colleagues and clients congratulating me.

It’s easy to neglect our own successes. We may shrug them off or take them for granted and, in doing so, miss out on opportunities to acknowlege the work and accomplishments we have achieved.

Take a moment to celebrate your successes. Beginning an exercise program, changing your diet, cleaning a room or having more fun are all worthy of your time and attention. Soak in the good feelings and acknowledge yourself for a job well done. It will elevate your mood, bolster your confidence and, like medicine, improve your immune system.

Need help realizing your goals?

Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a 30-minute complimentary consultation.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and create healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.  To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

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Your Divine Destiny   Leave a comment

 Preamble

One of my favorite books is “It’s Your Time,” by Joel Osteen. It is filled with inspirational messages that remind us that we all have a Divine Destiny waiting for us to say “Yes” and answer the Call.

Your Divine Destiny

“Too often we procrastinate or we allow negative thoughts and self-doubt to discourage us from chasing our dreams. As a result our gifts go undeveloped. Sometimes, we allow disappointments and failures to steal our confidence, and again, our treasures remain buried. Insecurities and low self-esteem can convince us that we have nothing special to offer.” Joel Osteen

We all have gifts, talents and abilities within us. Like the seed that contains all that it needs to grow into a beautiful tree, so do we have all that we need within us to give birth to our dreams. But just as the seed needs to be planted in the earth and requires the sun and rain to flourish, so we do need to plant our dreams in the fertile soil of our minds and say “yes” to the Call. Getting started is often the most difficult part of the journey.

It all begins with a desire, followed a the decision to say “yes” to something new, to change, to greater health, happiness and fulfillment – in whatever form resonates with you: a relationship, a new career, a new life path or direction. Then it’s up to you to follow the inspiration and guidance you receive. It may come in the form of a phone call, an offer, a book title, or an unexpected synchronicity. Stay open to the message and trust the guidance you receive. The more you act on it, the more will be revealed. And the more the seeds of your Divine Destiny will flourish.

                        If you need support in identifying your greatest dreams and goals, it is my pleasure to offer you an    Introductory Coaching Session. We will get acquainted, discuss your goals and see if might work well together.  To schedule your complimentary coaching session, email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com. I look forward to hearing from you.

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If you live in New York, or will be visiting the area, I will be offering free in-person coaching sessions on April 11 and April 25 at the Red Pipe Cafe in Forest Hills. Please see the Announcements section below for more information.

With love,

Theresa

Announcement:  Free In-Person Coaching Sessions in Forest Hills, New York

Do you have a dream or goal you would like to realize, but are having a hard time doing it on your own?

If you live in New York, or plan to visit the city, stop by the Red Pipe Cafe, located in Forest Hills, for a free 30-minute coaching session. As I usually offer Introductory Coaching Sessions by telephone and Skype, this is a wonderful opportunity to connect in person. During our time together, you will:

* Identify your greatest goals and desires
* Discover what’s holding you back
* Create an action plan to move forward

Dates: April 11 & April 25
Time:  1:00 p.m. – 5:45 p.m. (Last appointment is at 5:15 p.m.)
Location: Red Pipe Cafe, 71-60 Austin Street, Forest Hills, NY

Reservations aren’t necessary, but will guarantee your appointment. To schedule your free 30-minute coaching session, email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Don’t know your schedule? No worries. Walk-ins are welcome.
I look forward to seeing you there.

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator. She is the author of “I Am the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and creator of “Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program. Theresa has created and facilitated workshops on stress management, work/life balance, intuition development and other topics for law firms, hospitals, higher education, and other organizations. Theresa specializes in helping her clients gain clarity and direction about their life paths and guides them in identifying and achieving their dreams. For more information, please visit Theresa’s website or contact her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Disclaimer: Theresa Conti is not a licensed medical practitioner and makes no claims of medical efficacy, nor guarantees any specific outcomes or results. She does not diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease and does not replace medical treatment. All medical questions are to be referred to your physician. All exercises and suggestions made by Ms. Conti are at the sole discretion of the user.

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