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Reducing Holiday Stress: Say “No” to Get to “Yes,” Plus 2 Days Left   Leave a comment

Dear Friends,

Do you find it easy to say “Yes,” to others’ requests, but hard to say “Yes” to yourself?

Do you have a vision or intention for how to spend your holidays, but get hijacked by requests that you have a hard time saying “No” to?

The holidays can be a time of joy and cheer, as well as elicit feelings of stress and pressure.

While we may enjoy all that the holidays offer as we attend parties and other events; decorate our homes; shop for special gifts; visit friends and travel to see relatives and; make our favorite holiday recipes, among other festivities, we can also feel stretched and experience a strain on our time, energy, and financial reserves.

We may rationalize our decision to forgo our own needs, because we don’t want to offend our friends and family members, or risk disapproval from those we love or value.

But saying “No” provides an opportunity for others to grow, and care for themselves, and respect your personal needs.

Here are seven tips, and related questions, to help you gain clarity and take care of yourself this holiday season:

1. Take Inventory

– When are you saying “Yes” when you would rather say “No?”

– Are there particular circumstances or people who present a challenge?

2.  Be Mindful

– How does it feel in your body when you say “Yes” instead of “No?”

– Pay attention to stress and tension.

3.  Is what you fear will happen really true?

– How do you know?

– Is what you’re afraid of happening absolutely true?

– Regardless of what has happened in the past, this is a new moment.

– How can you take care of yourself if what you’re afraid of actually happens?

4.  What is saying “Yes” costing you?

– Are you tired and forfeiting rest?

– Do you have the financial resources to travel or buy expensive presents?

– Do you want to attend the events you’ve been invited to, or go out of obligation and later feel angry or resentful?

– What other costs might there be?

5.  Are you willing to pay the price?

– If you’re answer is “Yes,” do so with awareness. What will the payoffs be?

– If your answer is “No,” what could you do instead” (See #6 below)

6.  Saying “No” takes practice

– If you’re feeling nervous about expressing yourself, you may find it helpful to write down what it is you want to say.

– Then practice with a friend, a coach, or even in the mirror!

7.  Moving Forward

– What qualities do you need to grow inside yourself in order to feel comfortable setting healthy boundaries?

– Reflect on a time you were presented with a challenge and took care of yourself by setting a healthy boundary.

– Notice how the positive sensations feel in your body, and let the feelings flow through you.

– You can also think about how you felt – perhaps you felt a sense of confidence, or felt secure or empowered.

– Let the good feelings soak in as you stay with the experience for five to 20 seconds.

As always, I would love to hear from you.

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Practice Kindness   Leave a comment

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” – Desmond Tutu

I took a bus ride to Aurisina a few days ago – a small town about 15 km from Trieste, in the karst part of the commune of Duino-Aurisina, where I often hike along the Rilke Trail – as I had an appointment for a medical exam.

I noticed a woman, somewhere in her 50’s or 60’s, I would guess, who had gotten up from her seat several rows behind me to stand by the door at the front of the bus, although I didn’t know why. I settled in for the 45-minute bus ride, activated the Duolingo Italian program in my cell phone to keep myself occupied, and looked up along the way to take in the lovely view of the Gulf of Trieste as we progressed up the hill toward my destination.

I lost track of the woman standing at the front of the bus, until we both got off in Aurisina. As this was my first time there, I wasn’t sure where to go, and was scoping out the area. The woman from the bus saw me looking around and came over to direct me. Although she didn’t speak English (and I little Italian), we found a way to communicate, and I followed her, as we were both going in the same direction.

Although she was called before me, I finished my exam first, and walked outside to catch the bus to Duino, where I planned to stop for a coffee and walk the Rilke Trail, as it was such a beautiful day.  I missed the bus by seconds, and was waiting for the next one, when the nice lady who helped me appeared and crossed the street to catch the bus that was heading back to Trieste. Her bus approached, but it pulled out before she got on, as she stopped to ask me if I was coming! Our eyes met, and we each shrugged our shoulders in recognition of what had just happened, then she came over to my side of the street and decided to ride with me to Duino! We laughed and talked as best we could, and enjoyed the 20-minute ride. I found out she also likes walking, as she asked me if I would like to get together to go hiking sometime. We exchanged phone numbers, and I heard from her this morning.

We never know when and how connections will be made or what their purpose is. The people we meet along the way provide us with whatever we need at the moment, we do the same for them. It’s one of Life’s gifts and blessings.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Be open to opportunities to connect with the people around you.

You may not know what gifts they bring or those you’re there to share.

If you like, experiment with using the following affirmation from Chapter 11 from “Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself:”

“My heart is open wide. I spread Kindness everywhere I go.”

Soak in the good feelings as you think of  a time you experienced someone’s kindness or a time when you were kind.

Let the feelings fill your body for two or more breaths.  And notice how your energy shifts.

Then be open to the possibilities Life provides you to connect with those around you.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Be Bold   Leave a comment

“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” – Goethe

The term “bold” still scares the bejesus out of me – or at least the part of me that’s afraid of being eaten by tigers! And…the little kid in me who feels afraid of the unknown and wants to feel protected and safe. But that’s not who I am. The former dates back to prehistoric times and is no longer valid. The later stems from childhood and is the part of me that needs comfort and soothing. If you have similar feelings about the word “bold,” the same may be true for you.

Who we are is often more than we give ourselves permission to live up to. Change involves risk – after all, one never knows the future – or the results of the actions we take. Our primary goal is to follow our inner calling and act with confidence and faith (or act as if we have them!), as we take a breath and begin moving forward.

A question I have found helpful for myself, and often ask clients who are unhappy or dissatisfied with their current life experience is:

“What will you regret not having done when you’re lying on your death bed?”

The answer is readily apparent, when we are open to listening. And when we don’t, we will feel out of balance, and may experience depression and physical symptoms.

For me, it meant letting go of my home in New York, selling my belongings, leaving family and friends, and fulfilling my dream of relocating to Italy; re-establishing close and healthy relationships with my family; and, using my gifts and talents to be of greater service in the world. Goethe’s quote is accurate – my life is expanding and my dreams have, and are, coming true. And yours can, too.

It takes guts to move our dreams into action. But that’s what leads to greater happiness, fulfillment and magic. Are you ready to begin?

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Ask yourself:

“What will I regret not having done at the end of my lifetime?”

Write your answer down and place it where you can easily see it.

Reflect on it daily.

Make a list of what it would take to accomplish.

Create an action plan to realize it.

Take the first step and open to the magic.

You’ll know you’re on track when the energy starts flowing.

If you get stuck, reach out to friends, professionals, and colleagues you know will support you.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) 5 Ways to Recognize Your Ego and Regain Your Balance. Plus, Special Offer   Leave a comment

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Do you suffer from fear and anxiety? Or have a hard time getting to sleep at night because you’re too busy worrying? Fear, anxiety and worry are interconnected and share a common thread. In this week’s TNT, you will learn about a spiritual principle to calm your mind and regain your peace and balance. If you would like support on your journey, scroll down to learn about a special savings on a 90-minute Discovery Coaching session.

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) 5 Ways to Recognize Your Ego and Regain Your Balance

“There is a healer in you, rooted in and always connected to your spirit. To know this healer and make it work in your life you must (once again) get your ego out of the way.” – Wayne W. Dyer

The ego can be persnickety. Masking itself as wisdom, truth, and intelligence, it often pulls us off our path and creates unnecessary anxiety. While it’s important to make informed decisions, holding ourselves back from the changes we wish to make is another story!

As you read the list below, make note of the ones you relate to:

  1. Do you find yourself worrying about the future?
  2. Have difficulty making decisions because you’re afraid of making a mistake?
  3. Would like to make a change in your personal or professional life, but procrastinate?
  4. Do you tell yourself you don’t have the skills or resources to pursue your goals and dreams?
  5. Do you wake up in the morning feeling depressed or dreading the day?

If you checked one or more of the above, your ego is getting in the way!

Fear, worry, stress, and other low frequency emotions, zap our energy, affect our health, and are rooted in the ego – or what Buddhists call “the little mind” – which projects doom and gloom into the future and prevents us from living our best lives. And the more fearful we become, the more we condition our minds to believe our projections are real.

I had an epiphany yesterday when I realized I had been feeling overly anxious about a change I’ve been wanting to make. Then, as if the gods waved a magic wand while I was meditating, I recalled this beautiful principle from Dr. Mikao Usui, an enlightened master who discovered the healing art of Reiki.

The principle below is one of five spiritual precepts I learned during my First Degree Reiki Training in 1984, while living in Seattle.  I felt an immediate sense of relief as I repeated the words; the worry vanished, and I felt a deep sense of peace, joy, and happiness.  I was living in the present.

The precept serves as a guide for living. Open your heart and try it.

“Just for today, I will not worry.”

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): Create More Time To The Things You Love   Leave a comment

As a Reconnective Healer and Life Coach, three things I often hear people talk about are their needs for more energy, time and sleep. Do you resonate?

One way to increase your energy is by letting go of what drains you. Ironically, we often turn to those very things – TV, food, sugar, alcohol, (can you name a few others?) to give us a boost or to help us relax. Hmmm….time for a dose of more effective medicine!

This simple change may not be easy, but it will help to improve your energy, brighten your mood and create more time to do the things that are important to you, but first, you must be willing to get off the couch! Ready? Take a breath! Here it comes! Can you guess?

Remove the Tube!

You might be ahead of me on this one. I have to admit, I am sucker for TV. I like watching the News Hour and have a few favorite shows (no, not all on PBS!). If you have resistance to removing your tube, or aren’t sure what you’ll replace it with, here’s a little story to encourage you!

Some years ago, I took a 12-week course called The 4 T Prosperity Program (Tithe Your Time, Talents and Treasure); a spiritual class created by Stretton Smith to help his students create greater joy and prosperity in their lives. I took the course at Sacred Center with August Gold, the church’s minister, who insisted on adding a little something extra of her own to the syllabus: a 12-week requirement to “turn the volume down,” by reducing our exposure to the news, and  unplugging the television. Whew! The resistance in the room was palpable!  After all, what would one do to relax and “tune out?”

Although I cheated to watch the Obama-Clinton debates (the class took place during the primaries), I stepped up and met the challenge! Much to my delight, I noticed several unexpected changes: I slept better (no late night TV interfering with my dream time!), felt happier when I woke, began a photo project I had been neglecting, and made connections with friends I hadn’t previously had time for. In essence, my life began to improve.  And yours can, too!

You may not be ready to remove the tube permanently, but why not experiment for the next week or two? Try replacing your viewing time with something more fun and satisfying. Like that class you’ve been meaning to take, the book you’ve been wanting to read, the project that’s been sitting on your shelf, or an activity that would increase your sense of joy and prosperity. And remember, prosperity isn’t just about money!

To join in the experiment, click on “Comments,” located next to the blog title, and let me know what you choose to substitute in place of the tube, then come back next week to share your results.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): A Time For Joy & Renewal, Plus Spring Special   Leave a comment

Spring is an exciting time! With it, comes a sense of fresh energy, a time for renewal and the budding of new ideas after the harshness of winter.

As with spring cleaning, it is a time for clearing out the cobwebs that may have clouded our minds. As we do so, we gain a fresh perspective and an awareness of solutions to problems and situations that may have previously alluded us.

Riding on the energy of spring, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to experience more joy and renewal in my life?” Act on the intuition you receive, and let the inspiration from within guide you.

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Wednesday’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): TIdying   Leave a comment

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Is decluttering your home or apartment something you dream of, but never get to? Today’s TNT provides seven tips to get you started!

Wednesday’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): Tidying

“To truly cherish the things that are important to you, you must first discard those that have outlived their purpose.” – marie kondo

I’ve been reading a book called “the life-changing magic of tidying up” (lower case intended) by marie kondo, a Japanese cleaning consultant who takes tidying to a whole new level. Using the first syllable of her last and first name (in that order), she calls it the “The KonMari Method.”  Ms. kondo’s method is a unique approach for letting go of what no longer serves or thrills us. Her method is fun, light and has a touch of the metaphysical!

The KonMari Method, thinks of our belongings, such as clothes, books and accessories are items we have relationships with, each having (or lacking) a particular energy. And as the adage says, people are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime. The same holds true for the relationships we have with our belongings. Thinking about “tidying” my apartment from that perspective makes the process so much more appealing!

Here are a few suggestions I’ve pulled from her book to get you started and give you a taste of her methodology:

  1. Tidy by category, rather than room or corner (e.g. clothes, books, shoes, papers, miscellaneous and mementos – in that order).
  2. Keep what you brings you joy. Discard the reset!
  3. Tidy in one shot (e.g. take every item of clothing – or a subcategory, such as tops) and create a pile on the floor. Next, sort through the pile, holding each item in your hand and ask: “Does this spark joy?” If yes, keep it. If not, dispose of or donate it.
  4. Discard first. Organize second.
  5. See tidying as a special event! Not a daily task. Have fun with it!
  6. Start with things that are easy (for me, it’s my socks and leggings!)
  7. When choosing what to keep, ask your hear; when choosing where to store something, ask your house.

Clearing our space is an act of love. It creates a sense of order and brings balance to our lives. It quiets the mind and helps us think more clearly.

If decluttering is one of your goals, I highly recommend Ms. condo’s book. It’s a delightful read, and makes the process feel exciting and doable!

With love,

Theresa

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