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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) We Are Beacons of Light   Leave a comment

“Shine your light and make a positive impact on the world; there is nothing so honorable as helping improve the lives of others.” – Roy T. Bennett

I am reading the book “The Power of You,” by Chris Michaels. I have just finished the first chapter. The book is about our relationship with the Divine – the spiritual Presence we know by many names: God, Spirit, Creator. What we call “It” doesn’t matter.

We are all Divinely connected. Individual and unique expressions of Life; each with our own gifts and talents, and capacities for loving and giving. This is how we can truly change the world – by following our bliss; our dreams; our goals; and knowing there is a Divine Presence that wants the best for us. We are Its channels.

We add value to the world, and make a difference in the lives of others, by the simple things we do.

I recently sent a small amount of money to an elderly relative who is living on social security, and a small amount of food stamps. It’s something I learned from my father, who always impressed me with his generosity and I now follow in his footsteps, when I feel called and inspired to do so. Not from obligation, but from a place of loving presence.

We are beacons of light. We have the power to love, to heal, to care for and to bless one another, through our words, our actions, and the very essence of who we are.

I received a message from my relative the other day thanking me, and letting know that my contribution made a significant difference to her sense of security and well-being. It was a small gift, but it meant the world to her.

Our acts of kindness don’t have to be financial – they can be whatever we feel guided and inspired to do, moment by moment. And in doing so, we lift the lives of others, and ourselves, and increase the vibrations of love and well-being on our planet.


What’s one act of kindness you can do today to make a difference in someone’s life?

It can be an act of kindness to someone you know or to a perfect stranger.

Notice how good it feels to contribute to another’s sense of well-being.

Not from obligation, or winning favor, but from a spirit of love and generosity.

And what we give will come back to us in ways we may never fathom. Like a sacred circle.

Try it for a day, a week, a month, a lifetime.

Little by little, our acts of kindness can, and do, make a difference.

It’s all a matter of practice.

If you like, try using the following affirmation from Chapter 11 of



Then let your heart fill with love, and like a soothing balm flowing through you, let the good feelings fill your body.

As always, I would love to hear your comments, and how this week’s TNT works for you.

With love,


“Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself” is an empowering process that can help you change your thoughts and create greater health, happiness, and fulfillment.


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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Practice Kindness   Leave a comment

“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” – Desmond Tutu

I took a bus ride to Aurisina a few days ago – a small town about 15 km from Trieste, in the karst part of the commune of Duino-Aurisina, where I often hike along the Rilke Trail – as I had an appointment for a medical exam.

I noticed a woman, somewhere in her 50’s or 60’s, I would guess, who had gotten up from her seat several rows behind me to stand by the door at the front of the bus, although I didn’t know why. I settled in for the 45-minute bus ride, activated the Duolingo Italian program in my cell phone to keep myself occupied, and looked up along the way to take in the lovely view of the Gulf of Trieste as we progressed up the hill toward my destination.

I lost track of the woman standing at the front of the bus, until we both got off in Aurisina. As this was my first time there, I wasn’t sure where to go, and was scoping out the area. The woman from the bus saw me looking around and came over to direct me. Although she didn’t speak English (and I little Italian), we found a way to communicate, and I followed her, as we were both going in the same direction.

Although she was called before me, I finished my exam first, and walked outside to catch the bus to Duino, where I planned to stop for a coffee and walk the Rilke Trail, as it was such a beautiful day.  I missed the bus by seconds, and was waiting for the next one, when the nice lady who helped me appeared and crossed the street to catch the bus that was heading back to Trieste. Her bus approached, but it pulled out before she got on, as she stopped to ask me if I was coming! Our eyes met, and we each shrugged our shoulders in recognition of what had just happened, then she came over to my side of the street and decided to ride with me to Duino! We laughed and talked as best we could, and enjoyed the 20-minute ride. I found out she also likes walking, as she asked me if I would like to get together to go hiking sometime. We exchanged phone numbers, and I heard from her this morning.

We never know when and how connections will be made or what their purpose is. The people we meet along the way provide us with whatever we need at the moment, we do the same for them. It’s one of Life’s gifts and blessings.


Be open to opportunities to connect with the people around you.

You may not know what gifts they bring or those you’re there to share.

If you like, experiment with using the following affirmation from Chapter 11 from “Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Life and Love Yourself:”

“My heart is open wide. I spread Kindness everywhere I go.”

Soak in the good feelings as you think of  a time you experienced someone’s kindness or a time when you were kind.

Let the feelings fill your body for two or more breaths.  And notice how your energy shifts.

Then be open to the possibilities Life provides you to connect with those around you.

With love, Theresa



“Theresa’s book and techniques will help guide you on your path to transformation. When you create a life you love and are grateful for your life, mind, body and spirit receive the love message and all benefit.”   Bernie Siegel, M.D., Author of 365 Prescriptions For The Soul 

“A beautiful and simple concept – as easy as ABC! This sweet book offers a creative way to counter the leanings of the mind and provides exercises to stay buoyant and positive — and it offers a section to add even more affirmations to the mix! How cool is that? A great book to have on hand as a reminder that every moment is a new moment and it “affirms” that one can transform their thoughts and their lives in a quick minute. My favorite letter is Q!” – S.G.


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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Generosity   Leave a comment

“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we are not extending in the present.” – Marianne Williamson

Life constantly shows us our level of generosity.  We may experience a sense of lack and limitation, or feel generous and abundant, all within the same set of circumstances. Our responses depend upon our beliefs and perceptions, at any given moment. The good news is, the more aware we are of our reactions and behaviors, the more at choice we are to change.

Withholding love in all its forms is painful. It stems from fear and gets in the way of giving and receiving, which is our natural state of being. Withholding love can show up in myriad ways: we may feel anger or resentful; jealous or inferior; judgmental or confused; greedy or deprived; selfish or unkind; or experience numerous other emotions! Paradoxically, the more we give, the more bountiful our lives – when done with kindness and magnanimity.

If you would like to experience greater love and abundance in your life, extend your generosity!

This Weeks TNT:

Notice the places you hold back from giving. It may be as simple as not loaning a stranger your pen! Or not sharing your time, resources or experience.

Do the same with receiving. Notice how open you are to accept the generosity of others.

Be aware of how you feel in your body.  Are you comfortable with giving and receiving? Or do you feel tense and uneasy? Notice how you feel without judgment, to the degree that you are able.

If you would like to increase your level of generosity, ask yourself how you would like to feel and what you would like to do when given the opportunity to do it. You most certainly will have another chance! Little by little, you will expand your capacity!

As always, I would love to hear your experience and comments.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.



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Message From The Divine: The Cure That Knows No Bounds   Leave a comment

Do you ever feel alone? I do. It’s easy to feel isolated – even in the midst of a large metropolitan city of 8.55 million people, like New York. It seems antithetical, I know. But, it’s true. And I’ve spoken to countless others who feel that way, too, regardless of socio-economic status, race, or gender. There may be times when you feel the same. Don’t think it odd, if you do. It’s an indication of your longing for a deeper, more satisfying connection. In our fast paced, and modern day lives, it’s easy to feel cut off from the nourishment that we so dearly need to flourish and thrive. The good news is there are things we can do to reconnect with ourselves and all of our relations. This month’s Message From The Divine, taken from my September 30, 2008 journal, addresses just that.

I hope you find it helpful.

With Love,


***Messages from the Divine stem from inspirational writings and recordings created during my morning meditation. While they are answers to questions I ask about myself, they are universal in nature and may be helpful to you, as well. They are included here with little or no editing.

Message From The Divine: The Cure That Knows No Bounds

Small actions lead to great things.

Saying “I love you” to those you hold close to your heart,

To those whose friendships you trust and value –

And to those who do you a ‘good turn,’

Simply by saying ‘hello’ or extending a hand when you’re feeling down,

Can feel like the Angels sounding their horns.

We all need love.

We all need affection.

We all need touch.

We all need to extend and receive acts of Kindness.

It is a cure that knows no bounds.

During the month of April, think about ways you can reconnect – to yourself, your family, your friends, your community, and to nature. It doesn’t have to require a lot of time, effort, or money. Small steps, like taking in the beauty of the vast blue sky, can remind you that you are part of a larger whole, and fill you with a sense of peace and unity.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

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Compassion: An Antidote to Perfectionism   2 comments

“I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.”   – Lao Tzu

I’ve been working on a new brochure and updating the coaching page of my website. While I am grateful for the benefits of modern technology, sitting in front of my computer and learning new software skills is not one of my favorite things to do or an area where I feel particularly proficient.  Add several software crashes and formatting problems to the mix and ta-da! A perfect recipe for a stressful week, and a visit from a pesky friend: perfectionism! But there is an antidote that can shift everything.

If you subscribe to astrology, you may already know that people born under the sign of Aires (guess who?!) have a proclivity toward adventure, courage, spontaneity, enthusiasm, and  making things happen. We are also fiercely independent. All well and good! However, the flip side of an Aires nature includes a few challenging characteristics, as well. Namely,  impatience, impulsiveness and  a sense of strong-headedness and determination. After all, we’re represented by the Ram.

However, you don’t need to be an Aires to experience the characteristics of the sign.

Here are a few key questions on which to rate yourself on the perfection / impatience scale. Be honest now, and score yourself accordingly.

1)  You tend to be harder on yourself than you are on other people?                                          True     False

2)  You push yourself to accomplish more, be more, do more?                                                    True     False

3)  You keep working, even when tired or needing a toilet break?                                               True    False

4)  You’re short-tempered and may do or say things you later regret?                                        True    False

5)  You would rather do it yourself than ask for or accept someone’s help?                                 True     False

6)  You strive for perfection and have a difficult time accepting things as good enough?              True     False

      (Can be helpful or not, depending on one’s mental state and attitude)

7)  You don’t like waiting and are impatient with people who procrastinate?                               True      False

If you answered “True” to one or more of these questions, you may have a little impatience or perfectionist brewing inside of you!

But don’t despair. There is an antidote.

Although I wasn’t responsible for the software crashes, gosh darn it, I was determined to sit at my desk and work until  “I got it.”  Take it from me, folks. That’s not always the best remedy.

What I learned? After two stressful weeks of working on my projects (while Mercury was in retrograde, no less!)  I laid in bed one night and asked for help. I went to sleep, and woke the next morning felt completely renewed.  The stress was lifted and I was filled with a deep sense of love and compassion, much like a parent might feel for a child.  My determination and strong will replaced by a beautiful sense of healing and balance that allowed me to complete my projects from a place of strength, resourcefulness and fulfillment.

These words from the Dalai Lama:

“…compassion is considered a positive emotion. In generating compassion, you start by recognizing that you do not want suffering, and that you have a right to have happiness. This becomes the basis of your beginning to generate compassion.”

If  and when perfectionism comes knocking at your door, here are few helpful suggestions to regain your sense of harmony and balance:

  1. Be mindful. Recognize when you are feeling  pressure or experiencing stress and give yourself a break.
  2. Be willing to ask for help, both spiritually, and from your earthly friends and family.
  3. Pay attention to the guidance you receive and take steps to act on it.
  4. Stop when feeling compulsive or driven, and do something else instead.
  5. Listen to your body’s needs. Stretch. Eat. Drink water. Rest.

The Course in Miracles tells us that we teach what we need to learn. As a Life Coach specializing in helping my clients manage their stress, I hope what I have learned will help you.

As always, I would love to hear from you.  Please include your comments by clicking on the “Comments” link next to the blog title.

Many blessings, Theresa

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Presenter with more than 25 years in the healing field. She has written several articles on the mind-body connection, and has spoken about these topics on public access TV, has written and published “I Am the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and created and produced “Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program.

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An Invitation to Connect: Creating Community   Leave a comment

I want to get you excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you. I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now.

Virginia Satir

I am delighted to share my newly created interactive community on Facebook – a long held vision come true!

The page will serve as a vehicle to share our visions and ideas and to provide love, understanding, support and tools that inspire, encourage and connect us to ourselves, to one another, and to a larger world .

Current posts include:

  • Circles of Kindness: Creating a Little Good News
  • Book recommendations for manifesting more love and abundance in your life
  • Quotes from inspiring leaders in the New Thought field, and more…

The page is awaiting your response, comments, and the sharing of your experience, strength, wisdom and hope.

Please join me in this forum by “Liking” Reconnecting2You on Facebook.

Together, we can create a brighter world.

Theresa Conti is a Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, Spiritual Life Coach and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience in the healing field. She is the author of “I AM the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and creator of “Harvest of Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program.  

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