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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Focus on the Positive   Leave a comment

We all experience discouragement from time to time. The key, when in the midst of challenge, is learning to focus on the positive.

“If you keep saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a prophet.” – Isaac Bashevis Singer

It’s easy to feel frustrated when things don’t go our way, or take longer than we wish. We may become discouraged, and think that what we long for will never come to pass. Over time, if we don’t change the course of our thinking, the things we tell ourselves will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you would like a different outcome, and one that leads to your success, tell a different story, and shift your focus to your wins.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Keep a journal of all that’s going well.

At the end of every day, add a daily entry.

It will help to change your focus and increase your happiness and energy.

Need some ideas? Here are a few to get you started:

You:

Caught an early bus, and made it to work on time!

Saw a friend you hadn’t seen in a while and enjoyed a lovely visit.

You saw a job posting in your field of interest, and filled out an application.

The sun was shining!

You took loving care of your body, and ate a nourishing meal.

You spoke up for yourself at a meeting.

Your car started!

Get the idea?

Experiment!

Try it for a month. Then, notice any changes in your outlook and your life.

It doesn’t matter how large or small the good things you notice are.

The benefits are yours to enjoy, and will come with daily practice.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing Practitioner, Author, and Workshop Leader with more than 25 years’ experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and create greater health, happiness and fulfillment. She is trained in positive psychology, neuroscience, practical spirituality, among other modalities.

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Affirmations: The Power of Our Words   Leave a comment

“The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.” – Oprah Winfrey

Although we may be accustomed to thinking that our minds and bodies are separate entities, the truth is that they are intimately connected and have an effect on our behaviors and our experience of the world.

For instance, let’s say you have a conflict with a co-worker or family member and are uncomfortable addressing it.  Here’s how the scenario might go:

Thought: I am afraid of conflict.

Feeling: Fear, anxiety, resentment

Behavior: Avoidance, aggression

Physical response: Shallow breathing, stomach pain, tight muscles

When we change our thinking, we change how we feel about the situation or person, which then alters our behavior and how we physically feel.

In my workshop, Developing a New Relationship with Your Body, I facilitate a kinesiology exercise that proves the point.  I ask a volunteer to come to the front of the room and extend their dominant arm in a horizontal position. I then ask them to resist my pressure as I press down on their wrist and test their strength. They always test quite strong.

Next, I ask them to close their eyes and repeat the phrase “I am weak and helpless” 10 times. (I always do the counting!) When done, I ask them to extend the same arm and I retest their strength. The volunteers’ arms, without fail, become weak and fall limply by their sides. The class is always quite astonished.

In the final phase of the exercise, I ask the volunteers to repeat the statement “I am strong and powerful” 10 times, with eyes closed, and instruct them to soak in the good feelings. I then retest their strength. It sometimes takes volunteers a few tries to regain their original strength (such is the power of our negativity bias), but they always do, and often feel much stronger then they did at the beginning of the demonstration.

Affirmations are a powerful way to change our mindsets and improve our lives.  In my upcoming book, “Alphabet Affirmations: Transform Your Live and Love Yourself,” I provide 78 empowering affirmations to help you create a more joyful and healthy life. Pre-orders are coming soon!

In the meantime, try the following experiment:

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Pick a day to pay attention to your thinking.

Make note of your dominant thoughts.

Notice how you feel.

Choose one thought that diminishes your sense of well-being.

Write an affirmative statement to refocus your thinking.

Soak in the good feelings.

Notice any difference.

Use the affirmation as often as needed.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. Available internationally by Skype and U.S. telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

Website: www.reconnecting2you.com

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/theresa-conti-clc-95b4972b/

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Living In Your Sweet Spot   Leave a comment

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I first heard the phrase “Sweet Spot” uttered by my father in relation to the number of strokes he could swim in the Atlantic Ocean. The phrase stuck with me through my childhood and re-emerged several years ago when speaking with a colleague about where in the world to live.

I love closing my eyes and imagining living in my sweet spot, whether it be related to work, a relationship or an adventure I would like to take. Visualizing my sweet spot elicits feelings of love, prosperity and a deep sense of joy and fulfillment.

We all have our personal sweet spots – some that we know of and some yet to be discovered.

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Living In Your Sweet Spot

“Life is too short to waste time in the wrong place.” – Joel Osteen

Are you in a job, a relationship, or other situation that drains you? Do you wake in the morning dreading the day? Do you settle for less because you’re afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a risk that jeopardizes the life you’re accustomed to? Or are you tired of the same old, same old, and ready to try something new?

The status quo provides a measure of safety, but it comes at a definite cost.

When I was in my early 20’s, I was in a dysfunctional marriage and was afraid to leave, because I wasn’t sure I would be able to support my son and I. Looking back, it’s clear to see that when I was ready to take a leap of faith, and file the papers, the universe was there to catch me. I have experienced this phenomenon repeatedly. Most recently when I left New York and began a new life in Trieste. Although your intentions may be different than mine the same can happen for you.

Change can be both exhilarating and scary. It opens new doors, provides new opportunities, and helps us flourish and grow. However, when fear or doubt set in, we may unconsciously sabotage ourselves by thinking the worst, rather than the best, case scenario.

In his book, “Hardwiring Happiness,” Rick Hanson, Ph.D. writes the following:

        “…in general, the default setting of the brain is to overestimate threats, underestimate opportunities,  and underestimate resources, both for coping with threats and for fulfilling opportunities. Then we update these beliefs with information that confirms them, while ignoring or rejecting information that doesn’t.”

I find Dr. Hanson’s research empowering.

Making a major change can present challenges and leave us feeling vulnerable. However, challenges also come with breakthroughs. For instance, I am in the process of making new friends and speak little Italian. I recently told a few acquaintances that I had been feeling lonely and asked if they would like to get together for dinner or an aperativo. Voila! The next day, I was invited to go sailing! (Hence, the delayed Tip ‘N Tool!)

Being vulnerable may feel uncomfortable, but it can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

What change would you like to make in your life?

Write down your vision in detail.

Then close your eyes and imagine it has already happened.

Let the good feelings sink in for 10-20 seconds.

Repeat as necessary.

It will change your vibrational chemistry and open new doors and opportunities.

When you find yourself doubting the possibility, remind yourself that it’s only a belief and connect with people who support you.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. Available internationally by Skype and U.S. telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

Website: www.reconnecting2you.com

LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/theresa-conti-clc-95b4972b/

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Adjust Your Sails   Leave a comment

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” – Jimmy Dean

Change can be scary, and fear of the unknown can keep us stuck in our tracks. To the outside world we may appear to be happy and comfortable. But are we?

As you many of you know, I made a major change in my life earlier this year when I relocated to Trieste, Italy. Sure, I had fear, anxiety and doubts. Who wouldn’t? After all, I was moving away from friends and family and creating a total life overhaul. It took two years to get here, but one day, one step at a time, I made it. And so can you. Your dreams may be different than mine – perhaps you would like to learn a new skill, take an art or dance class, change jobs, begin or end a relationship or pursue any number of goals that you have put on the back burner.

Our brains are hardwired to think the worst. It’s a survival mechanism inherited from our ancestors and designed to keep us alive when lions, tigers and dinosaurs threatened our very existence. Despite the news, which focuses on sensationalism and negativity, statistics show that the world is safer today than it was in the past, yet we are conditioned to think the opposite.***

So what to do? And how do you adjust your sails to reach your desired destination when fear is keeping you anchored to your comfort zone? Is the change you would like to make really as threatening as it seems? To whom or what are you listening to? The ancient part of your brain or your inner wisdom, which is always for your greater good and happiness?

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Set aside some quiet time. Have paper and pen handy. Take a few deep breaths and answer the following questions:

What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do, but were afraid of doing?

What’s the worst that could happen if you do it?

What’s holding you back?

Are the obstacles that are holding you back real, or thoughts you’ve come to believe are true?

What’s one thing you can do to move forward?

Are you ready to do it?

What’s one action you can take this week to pursue it?

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love, Theresa

***Check out Steven Pinker’s research online or read his book, “The Better Angels of Our Nature” to learn more about his findings.

Is there a goal or dream you would like to fulfill and would like support in moving forward? Email Theresa@reconnecting2you.com to schedule a Complimentary Coaching Consultation. It would be my pleasure to speak with you. Available internationally by Skype and telephone.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams and create happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.

Website: www.reconnecting2you.com

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool): Change Your Thinking, Change Your Brain   Leave a comment

Dear Friends,

Did you know you could increase your sense of happiness by focusing on experiences, in the past or present, that brought or bring you pleasure?

Experts estimate that we have between 60,000 and 80,000 thoughts per day, and most of them are repetitive! You’ve likely heard the phrase “what you focus on grows.” Research now tells us the science behind it is accurate.

Neurons that fire together wire together. In layman’s terms (which I’m still learning!) means that our repetitive thoughts strengthen the neural pathways in our brains, and the beliefs and behaviors that accompany them. The good news is, as we change our thinking, we have the ability to change the hardwiring in our brains.

For instance, science has shown that focusing on positive experiences for as little as 10-20 seconds increases our happiness and improves our health and well-being; things we may have known instinctively, and which researchers are now documenting.

This week, dedicate a few minutes throughout the day to reflect on pleasurable experiences – past or present – and soak in the good feelings for 10 to 20 seconds. Then take a moment to notice any changes to your energy or mood.

As you continue to practice, noticing positive moments will become natural, and help you to create a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life!

Give it a try! It might brighten your day!

As always, I would love to hear from you. Drop a note to let me know it goes!

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience. Theresa specializes in helping her clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and create healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.  To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) How To Chase The Blues & Brighten Your Day   Leave a comment

Did you know you could increase your sense of happiness by focusing on experiences in the past or present that brought you a sense of fulfillment? Perhaps you felt proud at a job well done, or had a lovely exchange with a friend or loved one, or felt a sense of peace as you walked by the seaside or someplace in nature. We often take our pleasant experiences for granted or file them in the back of our minds, with the exception of viewing an occasional photograph stored on our Smart Phones. However, the times you have experienced joyful moments are likely endless.

Science tells us that focusing on positive events increases our happiness and improves our health and sense of well-being; things we may have known instinctively and which researchers are now documenting. Focusing on things that bring or have brought us pleasure raises our vibration, as well. The two are synonymous.

This week, dedicate a few minutes throughout the day to reflect on pleasurable experiences and let the good feelings in. As you continue to practice, noticing positive moments will become natural, and leading you to create a life-enhancing habit.

Give it a try! Your day is bound to brighten!

As always, please drop a note. I would love to know how it goes!

© Theresa Conti 2016

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience in the healing field. Theresa specializes in helping her  clients manage their stress, realize their dreams, and live healthier, happier, more fulfilling lives.  To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) How To Increase Your Happiness   Leave a comment

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Did you know you could change the hardwiring in your brain to increase your level of happiness? Neuropsychologists are showing us how!

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) How To Increase Your Happiness

“What we appreciate, appreciates.” – Dr. Jean Houston

Our ability to enjoy our lives and experience happiness depends, in part, on our ability to recognize and take in the good.

Whether we recognize them or not, research shows that on average, we experience many more positive moments during the day than negatives ones. While our brains are hardwired for survival, based on our ancestral origins, we no longer need fear lions, tigers and bears. Yet, we often act as though we do.

In his book, Hardwiring Happiness, Rick Hanson, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist, tells us that with practice we can indeed change the hardwiring in our brains. One exercise that may ring familiar is to begin recognizing the things that make you feel good and the positive experiences that show up in your everyday life. A compliment from a friend, a note of appreciation from a client or employer, an unexpected win or an invitation to an event. What makes this seemingly small practice so powerful is taking a moment to relax and soak in the good feelings when they occur. In other words, don’t discount or brush aside the positive experience or good feelings aside. Invite them in.

Try this simple exercise to increase your happiness:

Start by assessing your current level of happiness. For instance, on a scale of 1-10, with one feeling no happiness at all and 10 feeling extremely happy, how would you rate your level of happiness?

Next, when positive emotions arise, stop and take note of how you feel. Notice any sensations in your body. Take a breath and welcome the good feelings in.

Do the practice for a week or two, then repeat the assessment. Notice any changes.

Like a gratitude practice, noticing the good things that happen in our daily lives, helps us refocus our attention and create greater health, happiness and fulfillment.

As always, I would love to know how it goes!

With love,

Theresa

Note: Theresa’s TNT’s will be moving to Sunday. Please keep an eye out, and if you find the tools helpful, share them with a friend. They just may thank you!

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with 25 years experience. Theresa’s passion is helping her clients realize their dreams and use their stress as an opportunity for positive change. To learn more, visit Theresa’s website or email her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com

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