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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Focus on the Positive   Leave a comment

We all experience discouragement from time to time. The key, when in the midst of challenge, is learning to focus on the positive.

“If you keep saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a prophet.” – Isaac Bashevis Singer

It’s easy to feel frustrated when things don’t go our way, or take longer than we wish. We may become discouraged, and think that what we long for will never come to pass. Over time, if we don’t change the course of our thinking, the things we tell ourselves will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you would like a different outcome, and one that leads to your success, tell a different story, and shift your focus to your wins.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

Keep a journal of all that’s going well.

At the end of every day, add a daily entry.

It will help to change your focus and increase your happiness and energy.

Need some ideas? Here are a few to get you started:

You:

Caught an early bus, and made it to work on time!

Saw a friend you hadn’t seen in a while and enjoyed a lovely visit.

You saw a job posting in your field of interest, and filled out an application.

The sun was shining!

You took loving care of your body, and ate a nourishing meal.

You spoke up for yourself at a meeting.

Your car started!

Get the idea?

Experiment!

Try it for a month. Then, notice any changes in your outlook and your life.

It doesn’t matter how large or small the good things you notice are.

The benefits are yours to enjoy, and will come with daily practice.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) Trust Your Gut   Leave a comment

“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you’re heading.” – Lao Tzu

Change can be both exhilarating and scary. Whether we wish to change careers, sell or purchase a home, move to a new city or country, begin or end a relationship, or do anything that’s new, the future is unknown and can prompt feelings of fear and insecurity.

A few months ago, I had a chat with an American woman who has been living in Trieste for 15 years or so. She works for an American support organization, and has watched people who have relocated from abroad come and go. I had been feeling a bit lonely the day I saw her, and was longing for connections on a deeper, more personal level. She said I was at a crisis point, wondering if I would ever learn the language, make closer friends, establish a clientele, learn the subtleties between cultures, etc. I felt like she was a mindreader and was inside of my head! The thing that helped me most was when she said that what I was feeling was common and the point at which most people left and returned home. Wow. Although I had no intention of moving,  it made perfect sense and gave me a new perspective.

The challenges that come with change are true with any endeavor. The reptilian part of our brains are hard-wired to keep us safe, so we’re bound to question our decisions, and wonder if we’re on the right path when feelings of doubt and insecurity rear their frightening heads. Our ancestors were on alert for their physical safety, and had to fight or flee when their environment was threatened.  In modern times, the “old” brain kicks in when it perceives an emotional threat, and can stop us in our tracks.

I still feel lonely and insecure from time to time, however, I remind myself that what I’m feeling is natural; take a breath; reach out for support, when needed; and move on.

Fear is a common occurrence and something we are bound to experience when we stretch our comfort zones and embark on something new. The key is recognizing where the fear is stemming from, and tapping in to our Inner Strength and the wisdom of our guts.

THIS WEEK’S TNT

What change have you been wanting to make, but have been afraid of doing so?

On a scale of “1” to “10,” with “1” Not At All Important and “10” Extremely Important, how important is the change you wish to make?

What’s holding you back?

Notice the feelings that emerge. Are you scared, excited, happy, terrified?

Are the thoughts that you’re thinking true and serving you? Or are they assumptions based on beliefs that are trying to keep you safe?

Take a breath and call on your Inner Wisdom.

What feels right for you to do?

Ask your gut, not your head!

What brings a feeling of deep peace and inner contentment?

Your gut will serve to guide you.

With love, Theresa

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Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) How To Calm The Mind and Relieve Overthinking   2 comments

Preamble

Does overthinking complicate your life or lead you astray? This week’s TNT will help get you on track!

Theresa’s TNT (Tip ‘N Tool) How To Calm The  Mind and Relieve Overthinking

“Before enlightenment chop wood, carry water.

After enlightenment chop wood, carry water.” – Zen Proverb

I was talking with a friend today – we were obsessing about our fears (yes, I have them, too!), phobias and how much there is to do. Then, it dawned on me: When life seems complicated, and feels unmanageable, it may stem from overthinking!

It’s essential to have visions and goals and timelines in which to achieve them. They give our lives a sense of meaning and purpose and are important to our health and well-being. However, no matter how far we’ve come, fear and doubt can get in the way and lead to overthinking. (Can you relate?)

When your head is spinning, and you’re trying to figure things out, it’s time to stop and slow down the momentum. Go for a walk. Have a cup of tea. Detach and let the feelings settle. It will help you calm your mind, redirect your thoughts, and relieve your overthinking. You will regain your composure, feel refreshed and in the long run, be more efficient.

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Are “What If’s” Stopping You?   Leave a comment

 Preamble

On a scale of 1-10, with one having the least influence on how successful we our in accomplishing our dreams and goals and 10 the most influence on how successful we are, “What Iffing” ourselves is off the charts. This week, I’ll teach you a simple technique that will turn your “what if’s” into positive statements that will lift you to new levels of joy and fulfillment.

Faith is saying “yes” instead of no.” – Rev. Loretta Brooks

Are What If’s” holding you back? If so, I’ve got a remedy! But first, let’s have some fun and look at a few common scenarios:

Scenario Uno: You want a new job, having been unhappy for quite some time, but think you’re current job provides a safety net and gives you a sense of security. In a fret, your mind starts working overtime and puts the breaks on telling you “What if I get a new job and don’t like it.?” Or worse yet, “What if I get a new job and the company downsizes and lays me off or fires me?  While guarantees are never provided, you’ve just “what iffed” yourself out of a potential opportunity!
Or…

Scenario Due: You’re tired of sitting home alone on Saturday (or any!) night and have been thinking about trying an online dating site, but have heard they’re full of losers. You sign up anyway, despite your reservations (after all, it’s a free site!) and get a few responses. You’re hopes are up, you get excited, go on the date, and find it disappointing. Bummer. Feeling discouraged, you go home and cancel your subscription because “What if they’re all like that, I waste my time and get my hopes up for nothing?”
Or…

Scenario Tre: You would like to take a trip to someplace new and beautiful, but your friends can’t go and traveling solo is out of your comfort zone. You want to go, but your thoughts are off and running, scaring you! You listen as they tell you:  “What if I feel lonely or something terrible happens and I have no one there to help me?” Next thing you know, you’re back on the couch cuddled up with a movie and a bowl of popcorn.

Do you resonate? You’ve got to admit there’s a ring of truth in them (I know, because I’ve used a few!).  We all have our personal versions.

But what if your “what if’s” supported instead of deterred you? Let’s turn them on their heads and try a few!

“What if I get a new job and love it?”

“What if I meet some wonderful men (women) and wind up in an amazing relationship?

“What if I make some new friends and have fun traveling solo?”

What if you tried it?

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With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience in the healing field. She is the author of “I Am the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and creator of “Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program. Theresa has created and facilitated workshops on stress management, work/life balance, and other topics for law firms, hospitals, higher education and other organizations. Theresa specializes in helping her clients gain clarity and direction about their life paths and guides them in identifying and achieving their dreams. For more information, please visit Theresa’s website or contact her at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

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Shifting from Lack to Abundance   2 comments

Preamble

Everything begins in consciousness. What we think determines what we do, how we feel, what we say, and how much love and abundance we allow ourselves to receive.

“Other people don’t have to believe in [your] dream in order for it to come to pass.” – Joel Osteen

While other people don’t need to believe in our dreams, we do. We often deny our heart’s desires, and talk ourselves out of what we want because we think we’re not worthy or good enough to have what we desire or think that what we want is impossible to attain.

But everything begins in consciousness. As Goethe said,

“Whatever you can or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genus, power and magic in it.”

When we act upon our inspiration (known as the still small voice, our inner guidance and intuition, among other names), new opportunities avail themselves to us and increase our levels of joy, love, abundance and success. But we must be willing to say “yes” and take the actions required in order for our lives to blossom and prosper.

As I wrote in my little book of inspirational poetry, “I Am the Treasure,” the key is to

“Be mindful of the words you speak.
Being good friends, they do as you ask.”

In order to experience greater abundance in our lives, we must develop a consciousness equivalent to that which we desire. How?  By shifting the way we think of ourselves, our lives and our ability to manifest our dreams. In other words, the way we think is merely a habit that we can change.

The following 5-Steps will provide you the tools to elicit the change:

  1. Take time every day to look for the positive, in yourself, and others.
  2.  Focus on what you want rather than what you lack.
  3. Develop an attitude of gratitude. For an added bonus, keep a gratitude journal and list five things you are grateful for at the end of every day. You will sleep better, too!
  4. When you find yourself thinking negatively, or feeling out of sorts, shift your thinking to a better feeling thought by asking yourself “how would I like to feel?” The change may be subtle, but with practice, you will notice the difference.
  5. Give what you would like to receive. For instance,
    • If you want someone to be more patient with you, be patient with others.
    • If you want more love, find ways to share your love.
    • If you want more joy, make a list of the things you enjoy and do them.
    • If you want others to be kinder or more generous, be kind and generous to others.

By shifting your perspective from lack to one of abundance, you will see your efforts bear fruit as they transform and bless your life.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

With love,

Theresa

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Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing Practitioner and Workshop Facilitator with more than 25 years experience in the healing field. She is the author of “I Am the Treasure,” a book of inspirational poetry, and creator of “Harvest Your Light,” a guided meditation program. Theresa has created and facilitated workshops on stress management, work/life balance and other topics for private, corporate, non-profit and government organizations. Theresa specializes in helping her clients gain clarity and direction about their life paths, identify their dreams and make them come true. For more information, please visit Theresa’s website.

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Right Speech: Treating Ourselves with Lovingkindness   1 comment

“All that I am is the result of all that I have thought.”
-Buddha

I’ve been thinking a lot about communication lately and how what we say and what we do has an impact on ourselves, our relationships, and the world around us.

Every word we speak and every thought we think has an energetic vibration, and with it, a corresponding effect. Whether we know it or not, we are constantly creating our own reality, and as a collective consciousness, the reality of the world we live in. Mystics and metaphysical teachers have taught this throughout the ages, and thanks to modern methods, science is now able to prove it.

Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., an internationally recognized authority in bridging science and spirit, in his book Spontaneous Evolution, talks about the phenomenon of a patient declared terminal who suddenly experiences a spontaneous remission, even though everyone has “counted her out.”  From the outside, it seems a miraculous healing. Yet Lipton, whose research documents the effect of our beliefs upon our biology, posits that the healing is really an inside job and stems from a fundamental change in the patient’s belief system.

According to Lipton, and other cutting-edge researchers, we have the ability to shift our experience and create a life we love. In his groundbreaking work, Hal Stone, Ph.D., creator of The Voice Dialogue process, (a powerful process I use with coaching clients), tells us that our “inner critic whispers, whines, and needles us into place. It checks our thoughts, controls our behavior, and inhibits action,” all stemming from misperceptions and beliefs we have harbored since childhood.  Told we are wrong, will never be successful, we’re not good enough (you know the drill!), we get mired in shame, toe the line, and act as if these beliefs are true. Even the best of us can get triggered when feeling stressed or vulnerable. The good news is the more awareness we have, the faster we can shift from a place of pain to power.

Buddhist teachings encompass what’s known as the Eight Fold Path, and includes Right View, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, and Right Concentration. Although not a Buddhist scholar, it seems improbable to practice one aspect of the Eight Fold Path without affecting the others.

As we shift our reality from what we don’t want to what we do want, I suggest we start with changing the way we view, think, and talk to ourselves. To get you started, here is a simple and effective technique that you can easily put to use. It starts with an affirmation.

What is an Affirmation?

An affirmation is a short, powerful statement, made in the present tense, using positive language. In addition to training the mind, research has shown that affirmations have a direct impact on our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health, due to chemical reactions that occur in the brain.

Affirmations with a Twist:

I find that saying affirmations in the second and/or third person can yield even better results than stating them in first person, as is normally done. I speculate that one reason for this is because our old beliefs are so deeply rooted, we may need a gentler approach.

For instance, instead of saying:

“ I_______(your name) am a kind, loving, and powerful person,”  try

“You _____(your name) are a kind, loving and powerful person,” and/or

“_________(your name) is a kind, loving and powerful person.”

If you are sensitive to energy, I guarantee you will feel an energetic shift when using this approach.  Experiment and see which works best for you. Try creating a few affirmations of your own.  The key to success is saying them consistently. I recommend saying them out loud, while looking in the mirror, at least 10 minutes a day.

If you would like some feedback on the affirmations you create, feel free to email me at Theresa@reconnecting2you.com.

Treating ourselves with love and kindness is the first step in shifting our reality.

Theresa Conti is a Certified Life Coach, Reconnective Healing® Practitioner, Workshop Presenter and author with more than 25 years experience in the healing field. She specializes in helping her clients regain their energy, boost their confidence and create a life they love. She maintains an international healing practice and works both in person and remotely, via telephone and Skype.

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Acceptance in the Key   Leave a comment

Victory will always be on the side that the majority of your thoughts rest on in absolute acceptance.

Ernest Holmes, Creative Mind and Success

Wow! What a profound awakening!

Have you ever prayed for or desired something, but it never quite came about? The relationship, car, job, move health, or venture that seemed so within reach, exciting, and wonderful, but never quite transpired? Oh, so painful! And disappointing.

Instead of beating ourselves up, let’s take a look at some of the beliefs and perceptions that may be standing in the way of having what we want.  Of course, there are the age-old standbys (which are so old and crusty, I don’t k now how they survive! but old habits can die hard!). You know the ones: “I am not _____enough.”  (Pretty, smart, attractive, tall, fat, thin, talented, toned, or whatever enough.)

But then there are the beliefs that lie beneath our conscious awareness and effect our lives without our even knowing it! (Imposters begone!) However, when discovered, we gain the awareness needed to free ourselves from the ties that have kept us stuck. Let’s do a little digging and see if we can come up with a few.

Ready to excavate?

One sure-fire way to remove the dust from our unconscious minds is to complete a few stem sentences that address your specific issue. Let’s say you live in the city and would like to move to the countryside. Then stem sentence, in this example, would be “If I move to the countryside…” You would then complete the rest of the sentence. The exercise wold then something like this:

If I move to the countryside, I may be lonely.

If I move to the countryside, I might not have many friends.

If I move to the countryside, I might not be able to find work.

If I move to the countryside, what will happen to my friends?

If I move to the countryside, I may not like it!

You get the picture. There may even be a few positives that come up. Keep ’em comin’! The idea is to keep writing and completing the stem sentence (no cheating, you have to write the whole thing each time!) until you exhaust your list.   At the end of the exercise, you will have gained greater awareness about the beliefs that keep you stuck and/or you will have a few new stem sentences to work with.

I was both delighted and surprised as I contemplated my own desires this very morning – a move to Italy, the expansion of my business, and the desire to be of greater service – only to find that while I was breathing live into the things I want, I actually neglected to accept the changes they would bring. Wow! What an awakening. Th freedom I have gained as a result of discovering this one little piece of information is mind-boggling. I am energized, excited, and renewed. And you can be, too!

Have fun with the exercise! See what you unearth.  And if needed, I wold be delighted to assist you as you move forward on your journey.

Much love,

Theresa

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